The dreaded TWW!

[mommyofone2019]

Anyone else in the dreaded tww?
I'm currently 2DPO. Would be nice to chat to others in the same waiting game to keep us sane!

Woken up with bad lower back pain this morning at 9DPO. Offset of implantation pain or build up to AF due on 23rd?
This is my first proper cycle since coming off the mini pill so ovulation was predicted by Flo as the 8th.
Wedding anniversary on Friday, would be so special to test and have a BFP but if a BFN, think it would ruin my day. Going to try and hold off! What would you do?

I have no clue as we weren't TTC, but had a couple of (heat of the 🙊) moments on the 7th and 10th and all I know is I had EWCM 6th-12th (like 6 days?! Seems long 🤷‍♀️) so I figure it happened over my fertile period and therefore there's a chance. I was thinking about TTC again but we hadn't really discussed when. I guess I am so invested this week because it would take the decision out of our hands! If AF arrives, I need to figure out how disappointed I am and whether this could be the start of us TTC again...

@Bluemagicalsky I think it depends how strong you are! You could test with a FRER on Friday and there is a small chance it will tell you early. If its BFN, then you could enjoy a wine or 3 for your anniversary without it playing on your mind?!

Ideally though, we should all wait to test until day of AF...but I think the majority of us have broken that already 😆

Please tell me that I am not going mad, I am not irrational and this is totally normal.

We have only been TTC for a couple of months. I wrongly just assumed that first month we would conceive. AF is due the weekend and I'm just crying and crying. OH is getting upset, feeling that I'm blaming him but I'm not. He is more sensible and keeps saying these things can take time, that people can try for years. I'm frustrated and I have been desperate for a baby for years and we needed to move house etc before TTC - all of which we have done. So it is the right time for us. I regret leaving it so long before TTC but I am a planner and needed stability with jobs, money and to be in our forever home.

We initially didn't want children but over the last 4 years, that's changed for me and he agreed that we should TTC. So we have planned TTC for 4 years now and have only just started trying.

I don't think men actually get it. This is something inside of me, a drive, something I think about and day dream about all of the time. I look at prams, cots, clothes and everyone around me is pregnant and haven't even tried.
I get so upset as our child would have such a privileged life and we have everything in place financially and our relationship is solid, he adores me and worships the ground I walk on. I feel like I am pushing him away.

Sex isn't regular throughout the cycle because as soon as we are high and peak on OPK it feels clinical and I know he feels the same. I probably over-do it during this time and then have the rest of the time off. I feel that whenever I initiate sex, it's in his mind that it's with a goal of a baby, which of course some times it is, but other times it obviously isn't.

Do I abandon OPK?! I know roughly when I'll ovulation as I'm quite regular?!

Please tell me this is normal?! I'm probably feeling more emotional as I've had BFN and AF is due. 😞

Aw@Twinkle1989 can be such a rollercoaster

I think you’re right to not do opk and just have fun intimate sex when you feel like it

It’ll happen when it’s meant to hon xxx

@Twinkle1989

Your not going mad! It can be an extremely stressful time when you've thought about it and planned for so long. I think if your regular and know roughly when you ovulate I would give the OPKs a break for a little while. I know it's so disappointing when you thought you'd get pregnant the first month and then don't but you have to keep reminding yourself it's only been a few months. Me and my partner decided to TTC but I didn't want to get in his head so he doesn't know when I'm ovulating. I think if it becomes to clinical it's not enjoyable and you don't want that. If you don't want to initiate so your partner doesn't know it's solely for baby making purposes then you could try a few different other things. When I don't want to initiate but want to dtd as I'm ovulating, I'll wear something I know my partner likes. You could try something like that.

@Twinkle1989 it is completely completely normal.

Unfortunately the 'clinical' side of DTD is part of the process!

It does sound like you could do with taking a few deep breaths and putting the fun back into things a bit. I am the same as you and a proper planner, so there is a couple of things you could try.

Firstly, embrace the clinical nature of it! When we were TTC, I would send funny emojis to my husband (eggplant, donut...lol), I would put tea on and tell him to go wait for me in bed, I would text him from bed and tell him 'I'm ready!' We had a bit of a giggle about it and it was no less enjoyable by the time you got into it. (Hopefully not TMI!!)

Secondly, nope you don't have to do OPKs, you could do what others do which is just DTD every other day from the end of AF and then if/when you see EWCM, throw in a couple more if you have the energy!

Maybe find a couple of things to take your mind off it, ask your husband to help with this - play some board games, walks, adult colouring books (very calming!)

Its easier said than done to not obsess over it, but cut yourself some slack. It just means that you really want this and you will be a great mumma because of it!

@Highfalutinlootin yes! I'm trying to work out if the symptoms are my usual PMS symptoms or something more! I usually feel a little nauseous before I'm due on and have sore boobs but this month it feels more intense. I keep imagining I'm smelling random things as well.

@Emmie12345 the OPK said the 6th and then one of my apps said the 9th, another the 7th and another the 10th. I think I have too many apps.

Haha I like your thinking @madeinthe80z I might try and be sensible and wait to test but we shall see! I think a BFN would make me feel a bit low for the day. Not that we can go out and do much in this lockdown! 😂
It only takes 1 time! I'm with you there, I'd want 1 less decision to make too! Fingers crossed for you ☺️
I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time @Twinkle1989 I agree with @Emmie12345 It's way easier said than done but try and take some of that pressure off and say goodbye to opks for now x

Hi all - I am (much) older and am v blessed to have three children (4 pregnancies )

I never really did ttc with those as it just sort of happened when I didn’t have a coil in! My last dd I conceived accidentally (happily !) with one bd only on day 9

Now am older and want a baby so much with my new partner - but am also resigned to the fact it may not happen

So just wanted to say to those who are stressed with the whole opk etc - nature will find a way so try to take the pressure off yourself , at least initially xxx

Quick quiz -

I always go to the loo in the early hours of the morning. This morning it was 2.30am.

I then went again when I got up at 6am.

Which would you use as FMU?

My frers have just been delivered! And I actually don't have the urge to use them 💪🏻
Definitely going to hold off using them until at least Thursday. May even wait until Friday.
Really don't want to waste them

@mommyofone2019 looks like we have switched places! I thought for sure I would be able to hold off testing until AF was due the 22nd and have been doing ok up until now. I have the urge and overwhelming need to test now. I only have one frer left and don't want to waste it. Trying to hold off until Friday now like you!

@zeerecords I've tested the last 2 mornings using the cheap internet strip tests 🙈 just to satisfy the need to test. Knew they would be negative but just needed to do it!!

I've tested twice today! No more tests left till another pack of FRERs got delivered on Thursday so that will thankfully stop me till then!

Do you guys feel better after testing, even if it’s a BFN in the early days?

I’ve had a really good work day today, I think because I started it off by testing (BFN), and I’m sure it’s because I didn’t spend the day thinking “Am I/aren’t I?”. Was just able to knuckle down and do my job. Yesterday was so busy, but horrendous because I was stressing the whole time about what my test would say this morning 😒

@madeinthe80z haha that's why I always have a stash of the cheap ones!
Not going to give into temptation and use a frer! Think I'm defo going to hold out until Friday xx

@Emmie12345 Yes, I know when ovulation is through OPKs plus temping using a TempDrop armband. It takes and tracks your BBT every night so you don't have to think about it.

@Jessandra yes I feel better for testing. It definitely helps me to relax and just focus on other things. I literally have no idea how women who wait to test until AF due cope.

@Twinkle1989 Totally normal. I can relate to all you've said. We women often allow men to be blissfully unaware of the whole process and stress of planning leading up to having a child. I also waited a long time because I was a bit ambivalent about having kids, then I wanted good timing. Now I feel desperate for it to happen immediately. It's very hard.

@Twinkle1989 you're not going mad at all. It really is so hard ttc and can be so regimented. Sending you lots of 🤗

Not really had any symptoms other than what I posted the weekend about slight cramping and a pain in my lower left side. Just had the same pain again, it's like a sharp shooting/stabbing pain 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cramps were always a good sign for me in the past from what I remember! I have had constant cramping for the last week. So much so I have actually got some cranberry to drink because if I'm not pregnant, I think there may be something up!! Only other possible symptoms I've had is nasal congestion and bleeding gums.

Hi all
I definitely feel a bit like my period is on the way, which means I prob ovulated when me and dp were apart grrrr I thought I felt frisky those few days !

Aw I hope not, when is AF due @Emmie12345?

Still in the game until then!

@madeinthe80z I think it could be due anywhere from today till about Monday ))

How about you ?

Xx