GERIATRIC MUM😬

[DOB78]

Hi, I'm looking for advice from women who have had or trying to get pregnant after 40. I'm 42 and just had my implant removed. AF just arrived so after this will be our first month actively TTC but I'm worried it just won't happen for us. I don't want to pressure on either of us but I know I'm becoming obsessive already. Does anyone have any advice/experince/similar concerns

I'm 42 and trying again. We do have a DD who is 2 (had her at 40) and I also have an older son I had when I was young.

I don't have any good news stories (yet) but I know there are plenty of us who are 40+ trying on MN.

I was 43 and conceived.

This followed long periods of infertility interspersed by multiple miscarriages.

You will no doubt we aware of the strong possibility of these scenarios over the 40 mark.

Good luck. It could be a rocky road ahead.

Hiiii I was going to start a thread re this !

I am even more geriatric and am resigned to fact it ain’t gonna happen for me BuT while I still have regular periods I guess I will hold out hope !

I’m 47 and have three children v easily conceived in my late 20s and 30s (last one a happy accident at 37)))

I took my copper coil out 8 months ago expecting to conceive and all have had is a chemical pg in that time (

I’m so broody ! It’s with a new partner and so would love a bub with him )

Hi Kirinm and Pickypolly
Thanks for your answers.
Hope this isn't too personal but how long have you been trying?
I have 2 older children nearly 17 and 21 from a previous relationship. It was easy getting pregnant with them. Hoping it will be the same this time but I know this may not be the case. I am nervous this time around and I feel we may run out of time.

Hi Emmie123456
Geriatric Mum is awful isn't it!!! I didn't think I'd be having more children but like you I have a new partner, he has no children and will be an awesome Dad!! I just hope my body doesn't let us down. I also need a place to chat, I don't want to get on his nerves talking babies all the time.....

@DOB78

Hi Kirinm and Pickypolly Thanks for your answers. Hope this isn't too personal but how long have you been trying? I have 2 older children nearly 17 and 21 from a previous relationship. It was easy getting pregnant with them. Hoping it will be the same this time but I know this may not be the case. I am nervous this time around and I feel we may run out of time.

We've been trying around 8-9 months now. Have had two chemical pregnancies in that time.

Yes! Good to chat on here so as not to be like mad women ranting on about babies to partners hahaha

I feel quite unhopeful about it as for a while I was doing ovulation tests and getting smiley face but then nothin that cycle. So I have now stopped all that and am trying to be more pragmatic about it

And no I never thought would be broody afrrr my 3rd!!

I was trying for about 7 years.

As I said, I had periods of up to 18 months where nothing happened while actively trying.
Then I had 5 miscarriages

Eventually worked out.

My close friend is currently 18 weeks pregnant at 45. It was a long and tough route getting there though... years of TTC followed by three cycles of IVF (one ended in early miscarriage and one unsuccessful). She has a 23 year old daughter already!

Wow @Pickypolly that is a long road ! So pleased it worked out !

@Ignoringequally aw that’s lovely re your friend xx

I delivered my first just before my 40th and my third just before my 43rd. Used those fertility predictor things with each. All boys. Read that are marginally more likely to have boys if you conceive at the start of ovulation rather than the end.

Anyway, good luck. It's definitely distinctly likely you will get pregnant
: )

Do lots of relaxing things you enjoy too. Apparently acupuncture does help conception - and placebo acupuncture (randomly inserting needles) is as good as 'real' acupuncture - probably just because it makes the women feel relaxed. So anything relaxing and calming should help.

I think I missed it this month as dp was away till cd13 and I felt v aham frisky on about cd9-11

My last dd I conceived with one bd on cd9 in a cycle lol

I gave up with predictors as kept getting positive but didn’t conceive (except once which was a chemical )

I was 44 in January and am 37+6 weeks pregnant. If you're 42 in all honesty prepare yourself for miscarriage before a successful pregnancy (although you may be very lucky!!) I personally had 3 miscarriages ages 42 and 43 before this pregnancy - and being in a few over 40s groups have observed that this is common. Good luck!!

I am only on facebook to keep in contact with old school friends in a different country - and I don't generally post there. I have however noticed that there are quite a few with quite small children still, that would be consistent with their mothers having been 41-44 ish when they were born. Good luck.

I got pregnant at 42 with dd2 literally the first night we tried, I was 43 when she was born.

Hi,
Thank you for all your answers.
I'm trying to be as positive as I can but its hard when I know time is against us. I'm not going to use any predictor tests at the moment, I think that will add pressure. We said 6 months of TTC then if its not happened try them.
I'm kinda hoping its as easy as it was in my 20s but I think its wishful thinking.

Hi I had dc1 at 42, at it like rabbits for 3 months and conceived. I then got pregnant again but had a miscarriage. At it again like rabbits, had dc2 at 45. Good luck OP

I'm 42 and have been ttc number 4 for nearly 3 years. I've had 4 CPs and one mmc. It's not a journey for the faint hearted.

I fell super easily with all my others but the youngest is 10 and the eldest 20 so a long time ago

To be honest, I would try and pinpoint ovulation. Chances are you won't fall pregnant straightaway and you may come to regret leaving it 6 months.

I got pregnant with my DD without really trying. I could feel ovulation, had sex once that week and voila. That is very much not my experience now and she's only just turned 2.

As much as everyone says relax and let it happen, at this age I would pinpoint ovulation to maximise your chances. The reality is at over 40 miscarriages are common (40, three miscarriages in the last year, not sure if still trying)

I’m TTC at 42. I have already had one missed miscarriage. I conceived my first three children super quickly in my late twenties and early 30s but it is taking longer this time and my only success ended in the miscarriage. It’s hard at this age but there are plenty of success stories so hopefully worth persevering. Good luck all.

We tried for DC 3 at 40, for just over a year. No problems conceiving the first 2 in my 30's.

3 miscarriages and a chemical and then we gave up and accepted it wouldn't happen. The number of MCs suggested to me that my eggs weren't good, and that even if one stuck there would probably be a high chance of genetic issues.

I would start ovulation tracking straight off if you're very serious about having another, rather than just if it happens it happens. You really don't have time on your side.

I'm 41 and pregnant - found it very easy to get pregnant. Unfortunately, 3 pregnancies ended in miscarriage but I think I had a blood clotting issue as with this pregnancy, I have taken 150 mg per day of aspirin from getting a positive pregnancy test and am now 30 weeks. My recurrent miscarriage testing was cancelled due to Covid so I don't know for sure.

But it's definitely possible to get pregnant easily even over 40 and I don't know if the blood clotting issue would have affected my pregnancies before now or if it's age related. I'd take a decent preconception vitamin (I took procieve which you can get on 3 for 2 at Boots), look into taking ubiquinol (helps with egg quality), eat well, try and relax (easier said than done I know!) and see how it goes.

I've been taking Pregnacare Conception vitamins for 6 weeks now. I have an app that tracks fertility and menstruation. My OH is a born worrier so I don't wanna add to this by putting pressure him to DTD on set days.
We'll see how it going. I'm grateful for all the comments. I'm not sure I'm prepared for the journey ahead but I don't want give up before we get started