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[Welly19]

Hi,
I’m new to mums net and ttc for 1st baby.

I’m 33 and Have been trying now for 7 months and starting to feel a bit down and lonely about the whole process.
I havnt really told any of my friends or family we are trying, as I don’t want to feel any pressure from them/expectations.
My husband is very supportive, but every time we get a negative test it doesn’t seem to bother him as much as it bothers me (though he says it does!)!
My cycles are 28-32 days, and AF due at any point this week, but I’m trying to hold off testing until next weekend at which point AF would definitely be late.....and also because every time I do a test close to my AF start date, AF seems to start about an hour later!!!

So just wanted to say hi, and chat to people in similar positions!

Are you basal body temperature/OPK tracking to work out when ovulation is and therefore the best time to do the deed?

Hello, I’ve been been trying since June for #1 and I understand how you feel, it can be a very lonely time! Nice to speak to other people on here in a similar position :)

Do you know when you’re going to test/when AF is due to start this month?

@Welly19 I'm in the exact same situation as you. Came off the pill end of April.
Due AF around Thursday this week.
I found putting so much pressure on myself on the build up to ovulation. My partner is so relaxed and just keeps saying I need to relax and it will happen when it happens.
But the same as you, AF showed up last month and he just showed no sympathy at all. Which made me feel worse.

Have you any symptoms this month?

Hi Girls

Hope you don’t mind me jumping on this but I’m the same... stopped taking mini pill in May with first bleed in June and I’m still TTC..

Apart from my best friend and my partner no one else knows we are TTC

My AF was late by a day or so but I didn’t test as I’m finding it sole destroying seeing the blank white every time but it’s arrived this morning and my partner was just like well there’s next month and at least I have my festive drinking buddy back, he meant well but it’s not what I wanted to hear 😔

I’m trying EPO as I’m not getting much CM around ovulation so if TMI to see if it helps

No one realises how much this consumes your life, wishing you all the luck 😊
Xxx

I haven’t been doing my temperature but have been doing ovulation sticks...though my ovulation pains are always way later in my cycle.
So we basically just DTD all month!!
I don’t have any symptoms though. Though this month I havnt had my usual pre-period symptoms.

It’s so frustrating, and I’m trying to relax into it but it’s all I seem to think about at the moment, especially on the run up to AF. Because my cycles vary by a few days, I don’t know exactly when I’m due on. I think if it doesn’t come by Thursday I will test on Friday.
Comforting to know others are in the same boat though, as rubbish as it feels for everyone

Hi Ladies,

I am too in the same position, 36 and came off the pill in March, 6 months of TTC so far with no joy. I have been using clear blue ovulation tests and recently the last couple of months charting my BBT as well. Each month I have been getting a peak result, although last month no temp spike - I am CD15 today. This month no peak, so deflated. TTC is a roller coaster of emotions, like you @Welly19 haven't told anyone we are trying so it's difficult when you want to speak to someone. x

Hi @Welly19, I'll join you in your TTC journey! It's like entering a whole new world isn't it; I am also new here, 31 and TTC for 5 months now. I am temping and using the ovulation sticks although they never seem to show a peak for me.

I thought it had worked last month as had all the symptoms and a late period, but just my body playing tricks on me sadly.

I am in a very loving and happy marriage but my hubs is a bit older than me and just doesn't have a huge sex drive! We aren't feeling too much pressure though and still manage to give it a go at least three times in the fertile window. I do think with men they probably aren't sure what to say.

It can be a lonely process but just remember, you have no reason to think you can't do this naturally and there's probably a 20% chance of it happening each month, so odds are it will happen soon!

@Welly19 it's so easy for people to say relax and don't think about it when they aren't in the position of TTC! I can't not think about it. And now every little ache or pain is still like, oooh could this be the month. It's draining!
But I'm sure it will happen for us at some point. Jsut got to try keep ourselves busy doing things!!

Hi, I came off the pill in June and still trying to conceive. I'm now cycle day 11. Getting so frustrated and like yourself a little lonely. I decided this month to try the sperm meets egg plan. Although started cycle day 7 instead of 8. Fingers crossed we all. See out positives soon. X

Hi ladies - hope you don't mind me joining too. I'm 35 and started ttc in June. Got my BFP on the first cycle but miscarried at 6 weeks so just started again last cycle after taking a couple of months off. AF started on the weekend so fingers crossed for this next cycle and a Christmas positive! We haven't told anyone we're trying so its a strange time for sure.

Hi girls I hope you don't mind me joining! I am 32 and TTC for the first time, I came off the pill end of March. Wow I had no idea it was going to be this hard physically, mentally and emotionally. I have only told my sister and one friend, and finding it quite a lonely time even so. I have tried months of OPKs, months of tracking BBT but I find that stresses me out, and some months doing nothing but DTD every 2/3 days. AF is 3 days late but with 2 BFNs 😔 my BF is great, in the earlier days he was very it will happen when it happens, he has an 11 year old daughter that was a happy accident from a previous relationship, so all of this ovulating and tracking and TWW is new to him too. Hopefully we get some BFPs in this thread 💕