Ectopic pregnancy and period...

[Halli2020]

Hi I had an ectopic pregnancy 4 weeks ago, I had surgery and was 8 weeks pregnant very sore subject... So anyway I am still waiting for period to return to I can try again with partner. If anyone experienced similar when did your periods return? I'm getting a lot of watery CM, and have testing to see if I am ovulating which came back negative as I heard some people can ovulate a couple weeks after surgery. Thanks

I’m exactly the same, I actually posted a thread asking yesterday.

I was also 8 weeks and had surgical management on 6th October and waiting for my period. Wanted to comment so I can see updates too.

I know it’s a horrible thing to go through, I’m sorry. I hope you’re doing better

@Chica1990 I'm doing much better. I have days worse than others, but mainly what ifs, and why me... Mine was on the 7th October so we are very similar. All the best to you too and take care of yourself, I'm sorry x

Hi both, sorry for your losses. I had surgery mid September and it was exactly 6 weeks before I got my first period. I think the average is 6-7 weeks. Best of luck x

Hello, I had ectopic surgery on the 11th sept and had my period on 15th Oct xx

Hello,

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss.
I've had two ectopics.
First surgery in on 2nd feb, period returned 5th March.
Second surgery June 27th June and had complications with leftover cells so bled quite frequently until my hcg level was below 10.

My second ectopic was because I was still healing from the first surgery (so my consultant told me) so I should have waited longer to start trying again

So sorry to hear about fellow ectopics.
I had an ectopic in June, had medical management that turned out not to have worked when I ended up in hospital with ruptured tube and internal bleeding.
What did your consultant advise you about regarding trying again? You've had major surgery so your body is healing and trying to get back to normal, completely normal to not get a period when you're expecting.

@Rapunzel91 I wasn't actually given anything for follow up. No check ups, no phone calls not even a leaflet. Just left to it. So when I get my period I am going to leave it a month or so after that so my cycles regulate themselves again and I can go back to tracking my cycle etc x

Wow @Halli2020 that’s really surprising as it’s a big deal, do you mind me asking roughly in what part of the country you were treated? I can’t believe they didn’t even give you a leaflet!

I was told to wait at least one cycle and they made a massive deal about me using contraception in the meantime. But when I look online it says 2-3 cycles..

I had methotrexate first which was unsuccessful, so I’m not allowed to try again until 3 months anyway, but I was told that I needed to wait for 3 months/2 periods (whichever came first) post surgery to allow sufficient recovery time x

@Chica1990 I am in Devon. I was originally going to the EPU with a lot of heavy bleeding, I had to beg my doctor to refer me as I said something wasn't right. This happened at 5 weeks to when the doctor examined my stomach and said "I don't think it is ectopic you'll just have to wait it out to see what happens." so when I did have the heavy bleed, I was thinking I was miscarrying but my pregnancy tests were still strong positives and not fading. When I got to the EPU I had to have gas and air just to have the internal scan, as it was so painful on one side. Next thing I remember is feeling very faint and vomiting, then being taken out to theatre. My partner was with me, which I'm so glad he was. I remember there was my internal photos from the surgery on the side which he took a glimpse at and one of the doctors said to him "should you be looking at that?" they were so rude to him! I was discharged home and went home in a taxi and that was that, no aftercare or leaflets like I said. Not even a phone call to ask how I was doing. I had to get signed off from my gp and I am speaking to them today about blood tests for anemia as I lost quite a lot of blood I do feel rather anemic, and tired from the whole situation. It's disgusting sometimes isn't it? They also kept referring to my baby as the "embryo" and telling me how they "removed it" there was no empathy. I hope your experience wasnt as heartless as mine x

UPDATE I am currently getting symptoms of a period starting in the next couple of days because of cramping and CM changes so will update you soon when it happens x

I'm so sorry for your experience @Halli2020
There's a really useful thread on here which has been my escape when I need to talk about the ectopic or my advice. All the ladies have been through it and it's been really supportive

TTC after ectopic pregnancy www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3832234-TTC-after-ectopic-pregnancy

@Halli2020 I’m so sorry, compared to my experience that sounds a bit heartless and harsh. They should have given you a doctors note there and then and offered you a follow up call. Mines not until the 15th but at least it gives me a chance to heal and a check in if something still isn’t white right.

I’m shocked at how they reacted to your partner if he was there and they had got the photos out to show you. Do you mind me asking if you had referred to him as your ‘husband’ at any point infront of them?

I think you should put in a complaint, the experience itself is traumatising enough let alone feeling like they don’t really care. It might be worth asking your gp about therapy too x

I had an ectopic with surgery in 2009. I found the ectopic pregnancy trust website extremely helpful. I subsequently had a baby in August 2010. I got pregnant sooner than planned. I think it was just on 3 months after the ectopic.

So sorry you've had such a bad time with such uncaring treatment. And no follow up.

Has anyone suggested to you the ectopic pregnancy trust website? I think most of the info I got at my follow up, I'd already read there.

Btw, if you get pregnant again, immediately self refer to a maternity unit (you can do this online) and then call them to discuss with a midwife what early scans you should be having.

I'm so sorry OP, that's really not a great experience in an already serious and devastating scenario Every hospital trust will have PALS, which is there to protect patients rights and you can complain to them about how you were treated, if you want to. I had a really good experience from people in EPU and gyno but the care I had in a&e was so awful that I complain and they were great about it.

@Halli2020 I got my period 6 weeks after having my left tube removed. The following cycle I fell
pregnant with my daughter who is now nearly 3. Hope that helps and gives you hope.

I found The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust website useful and I'd had supportive forums too x

Hello everyone thanks for all your repsonses. It's good to know that I am not alone, in a time where that's all I have felt. Partner has been understanding and feels it emotionally too, but I know I haven't been myself lately and I am quite short tempered and have been sleeping a lot so it has taken a toll on me. On the positive side my AF arrived tonight after a couple days cramping. X