Rant!!!!!!

[Macbookbaby]

So basically I’m just going to put it straight out there me and my partner have being trying to convince for months now and I’m getting really really sick of all my friends getting pregnant and then there is me! The only time I’ve managed to get pregnant I’ve lost it! I blame myself for that and it’s so annoying that it’s ended up this way! I’m getting so frustrated and emotional all the time, I’ve just found out tonight that another one of my friends is pregnant! I don’t think I can do this anymore, I’m just not having any hope left at the moment xx

I feel the same way. It's rubbish and feels like pregnant people are everywhere, making it look so easy as well.

TTC is exhausting and upsetting. I hate it.

Same. TTC is a desperate, sad and lonely place.
It doesn’t feel fair and feels more frustrating when
it looks like people are having an easy time of it.

Please don’t blame yourself for anything that’s happened. Unfortunately miscarriages are common and even happen when people do their very best to prevent them.

Are you tracking ovulation using temping or the opks?

TTC is a lonely place, maybe your friends have had a journey that you don't know about?

Why do you blame yourself for your miscarriage?

Want for other what you want for yourself is something I try and live by. I know it’s easier said than done but it will make you feel better within yourself if you send out positive vibes x

I’ve been trying since January this year and the year has flown by, each month revolves around trying to conceive and I definitely don’t want to waste next year as I have this year.

I spent most of this year upto my eyes in opk tests and pregnancy tests.

I think it’s time we put ourselves first and conception second. Let’s enjoy our lives for what they are and live them as if each day is our last on earth x

Same here too. 8 months in, I'm starting to have friends give birth who stated ttc around the same time as me. I'm not even pregnant yet. I think I've used about 10 cheapies this month. None as positive and staring at them doesn't seem to encourage a line to appear 😂

@iswhois
I know it’s so frustrating! Me and my partner have been trying since March, but since not getting positive pregnancy tests it makes it easier not to test in the TWW as that’s what I feel like is going to happen! X

@Chica1990 yes I am using ovulation tests every month, I can’t help but feel it was my fault but in my heart I know it’s not, unfortunately it’s just what happens! Xx

@wannabebump unfortunately a majority of my friends have not tried and they have just fallen pregnant, lucky for them, as I’m close to a few of these people they have all said it is unexpected x

@BriocheBuns I just can’t help it even though I know it’s not my fault! I will try and keep positive, I will try and keep your saying in my head! Xx

@BriocheBuns that’s exactly how I feel, I don’t want to spend next year the way I have this year! I will try and keep positive and hope for the best, but I will definitely take your advice! Xx

@CycleGirl20 I know!! It’s frustrating! I always seem to think if we stare long enough then maybe a line will appear! It’s annoying when it doesn’t but reality is reality! Xx

I understand how you feel! I got pregnant quickly but it was molar and the one before that I lost (years ago), which I too have a lot of guilt for. My friend is pregnant and I’m trying to be there for her but avoid her at the same time as it really upsets me 🙈

This is now cycle 2 of TTC after my molar pregnancy and it’s so hard not to think about anything else! I’ve put so much pressure on myself and it’s not really enjoyable at all... I agree I think we should put ourselves first and relax as it can consume you! And also you shouldn’t blame yourself - there’s nothing either of us could have done to change the outcomes.

Feel free to rant away as I understand how you feel! xx

It is super hard but try not to be hard on yourself - cliche but everything happens for a reason and it will happen. I’m really annoyed at myself because I really didn’t think it would bother me this much, but I think it’s because I’m so used to be being in control of everything and this is the one thing you can’t really control. Plus not sure about your partner but my husband seems to have missed biology classes and clearly thought it would happen on month one 🤦🏻‍♀️ and at the back of my mind I’m like every month I’m losing another egg 😭 so if it makes you feel better you’re definitely not alone here!

@Forest27 omg I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through my lovely! It sounds heartbreaking, I’m currently due on it two days we did try this month but I don’t think it has worked as I have cramps :(, Thankyou so much my lovely I really appreciate your Comment! Xxx

@Gamechanger2019 I know it’s super super hard, I know everything happens for a reason just why did it have to be this and I hate how you can’t control it and me and my partner knew it would take time but we didn’t bank on this much time, I can understand you being annoyed at yourself too as I feel the exactly same way but we have to remember this is not our fault! I’m wishing you all the best my lovely! So happy that I can relate to people about my situation xx

@Macbookbaby fingers crossed this month is our month!!! I’m soooo over it now haha but then clearly I’m not 🤦🏻‍♀️ How are you keeping yourself distracted?

@Macbookbaby I know it’s so hard! But it’s behind me now, onwards and upwards!

Ah that could be normal though! I had period cramps and my period just never came. I had maybe a couple of pink or brown bits of spotting and that was it.

Do you use OPKs? I’ve just started using them after an unsuccessful month. And now we’re going to DTD every other day this month from CD9... if this doesn’t work I don’t understand 😂

@Gamechanger2019 My partner definitely thought I’d get pregnant straight after my molar! I begged him to let us try earlier (I had to wait 6 months to be given the all clear) but he was like it’ll be over soon and then we can try and acted like I’d just get pregnant straight away 😒 TBF we only DTD once in a the month I got pregnant, but when we’ve actually tried it’s not worked 🙈

Fingers crossed for us all this month!!

If lockdown wasn’t enough to send people crazy then TTC definitely will 🤦🏻‍♀️

1 full year and I am exhausted - everyone around is pregnant. In lock down it is just getting more frustrating and I don't know how long more we can keep doing this. Our relationship is under so much more pressure too!

I'm 25 weeks after TTC for 5.5 years so don't give up hope.

Currently 15 weeks after trying for 13 years so dont give up hope but also don't spend your time fixed on opk etc. I know how hard it is seeing everyone around you not even try & manage to get pregnant. A doctor once told me just dtd 3 times a week & try not to focus on it too much.

I completely understand this feeling OP, having a rant can definitely help and many on here will know the feeling too so good to have that support!

Me and my DP tried for 2 years, I had friends get pregnant, and then celebrate the babies 1st birthdays and still nothing. Even my mum got pregnant! (Whole other story) and it just felt like it was never going to happen. I finally thought it was our month in March after TTC for 18 months but unfortunately this ended in MC. We were devastated but decided to start trying again straight away and finally 6 months later we managed to conceive (currently 10+5 weeks so keeping everything crossed!)

I had no idea when we started this journey that it would take as long as it did or be filled with as much heartache but it will all be worth it in the end, just hang in there and one day it will happen!❤️

Also OP, not saying this will work for everyone but just my experience.

As it was coming up to the year and a half mark I started reading about inositol and I decided to order the MyOva Inositol tablets. I started taking these and using conceive plus lube the month that I conceived the first time, which as mentioned above, we unfortunately lost. I stopped taking the tablets and the lube and tried for another 6 months and as nothing was happening decided to take the tablets again and use the lube and we fell pregnant that time aswell, and as said am currently nearly 11 weeks.

Obviously I can't say for sure it was definitely them that worked but would be an amazing coincidence that the only two months I used them both was the two months I got pregnant! I figured it was worth a shot