Wrong to want answers but no ones giving me any?

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So I had some spotting on Saturday which led to pink discharge most of the day on Sunday and Monday, some bleeding Monday night, Tuesday morning referred to epu for a scan and bleeding slowing down quite a lot by the time I went for the scan. Was seen Tuesday afternoon and saw a heartbeat on the scan, they said they couldn't see a reason for a bleed but as seemed to be subsiding it must be one of those things, no need to worry etc congratulations, so great news happy happy. Tuesday night about 9pm passed a bit more blood and a bit of a clot, woke in the night to a big gush of blood, clots all night and had a miscarriage yesterday morning. I just don't get whats happened, surely if I was that close to having a miscarriage, literally 5 hours later shouldn't they have noticed something? Did they miss something? I don't get how its gone from congratulations one minute to I've had a miscarriage within hours. All I've had is 'these things happen' which I get but surely this isn't a normal thing?? Has someone made a mistake at the scan? I'm surprised by the apparent lack of support in place and just lack of any one to speak to to answer any questions, I just feel out here on my own with questions people seem to be avoiding answering.

I can't answer your questions I'm afraid but just wanted to say I'm so sorry about your miscarriage.

I'm sorry, OP. If it helps, there's nothing they could have done to prevent it even if they had known it was imminent. An EPU is basically there to make sure pregnancies are in the right place and to check if there's been a miscarriage. At the time they scanned you, there wasn't a visible problem, but scans only show you a specific moment in time and are no guarantee of the future.

Sorry about your miscarriage.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage

You say surely this isn’t a normal thing? But sadly it is- with a quarter of pregnancies ending in miscarriage it’s very normal unfortunately and as the pp says, a scan is a moment in time. It’s likely there was no evidence of an impending miscarriage so no way they could have known.

I know it’s really sad though from personal experience.

I'm so sorry this has happened
Sadly it is very normal, a quarter of all pregnancies end without a baby. It's such a hard thing to face, because there are seldom any answers.

Unfortunately almost all miscarriages happen for reasons unknown. I've had three, 9, 11 & 10 weeks. It's always devastating. I had histology on my last loss but there was nothing of note. I also had investigations for myself done after my second loss but again, nothing. I've also had several full term pregnancies with healthy babies. Only the unknown minute cellular activity within the uterus can tell me why those babies grew and the others didn't. Passing of time helps. Good luck x

Thabsk for all your kind words. I don't mean that miscarriage isn't normal, I am aware how common they are. More that going for a scan and miscarriage within hours of that isn't normal. We rang the epu yesterday afternoon and they did say they were very shocked by it as normally a scan with a heartbeat is a sign that things are going the right way. The said to keep in touch and if I were to get pregnant again they would scan me at 8 and 10 weeks, although it feels like there doesn't seem like much point in this at the moment if I could miscarry so soon after but I guess may help in future. Thank you for your kind words, it is really hard particularly in these current circumstances

I understand your frustration. My last loss was actually bigger than my dates, arms legs fingers, all perfect, just lacking a heartbeat. They said it could have stopped that day or the day before given how big the baby was. I would never have known. It just stopped. I waited to see if my body would kick off naturally and after a week I was tired of feeling sick all the time so asked for a D&C. I was both furious and desperately sad. Maybe someday they will discover what causes these losses to happen. Xxx