Looking for some advice.... Anyone? Lol

[Whatinthe0]

I'll try make this as short as possible.

4 weeks ago I started getting faint bfps. Then they got darker, and then over the next week they got faint again.
They are still faint now, but only there at all in the morning.
I would be 7 weeks now. I have had symptoms for weeks now, headaches, back pain, cramping, big blue veins on my chest. But no bleeding... At all.
It feels like I'm still pregnant, but the lines have gone super faint.
This morning I tested and there was a faint line. Tested again an hour later, but knmy managed to pee on it for like 2 seconds, and there was a line ever so slightly darker.
I really have no idea whats going on, I'm phoning the doctor on Monday to get bloods tok check my hcg, but does anyone have any ideas?
If it's a miscarriage wouldn't I be bleeding by now?

It could, unfortunately, be a missed miscarriage. In a missed miscarriage the baby stops growing but your body doesn't recognise it and miscarry.

Doctors will be able to tell you for sure and will explain what needs to happen next. I hope you get answers soon.

@Whatinthe0 Hello lovely! I don’t really have any great insights to share with you but wanted to wish you lots of luck! You’ve done the right thing by asking the docs for the blood test so at least you’ll get some more info from them.

I would be inclined to agree that you haven’t had any bleeding so that does sound positive- maybe it’s the tests you’re using or the time of day you’re testing? As in you’re earlier on than you think you are which is why it’s not such dark lines?

Again, I’m not being super helpful but wishing you the best xxx

I definitely feel like I'm pregnant, that's the confusing bit. All these symptoms, and I forgot to say I can't stop peeing. All of a sudden I just desperately need to pee and if I don't get there quick enough it leaks a hit. No pain or anything like a uti, but I'll mention it when I phone the doctors. I had pretty bad cramps a couple of nights ago and I really expected bleeding to start but no... Nothing.

Its just confusing that they went darker for a few days and then lighter again I've tested every day expecting it to go negative, but there's still a very faint line every day with fmu. It's so confusing. I feel like I'm in limbo, surely if it was a miscarriage I would be bleeding or something by now, and the symptoms would be easing off. But I've been feeling horrid for a couple if weeks now. The headaches are bad, the back pain is horrible, I just feel so crappy. If I didn't test after the positive and just left it, I would have no doubt I'm pregnant.... If feels that real.

Unfortunately, if you are experiencing a missed miscarriage it's not uncommon to have lightly positive tests and ongoing pregnancy symptoms.

This is a direct quote from the miscarriage association website:
"While many miscarriages begin with symptoms of pain and bleeding, there are often no such signs with a missed miscarriage. Pregnancy hormones may continue to be high for some time after the baby has died, so you may continue to feel pregnant and a pregnancy test may well still show positive."

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/miscarriage/missed-miscarriage/

@Curiosity101 I've pretty much come to terms with the fact that this is probably what it is. I've had a mmc before but it was very early and bleeding started a week after the tests went negative. This just seems to be taking forever and it's really not a nice feeling. I wish it would just hurry up and happen and I can move on as we're going to be trying ivf in January. I thought maybe this was it for us and we wouldn't need the ivf but at least we're in the position to be able to do it, so as hard as this is I'm confident we will have our baby soon, I just hate feeling the signs of being pregnant but it not being real... If that makes sense lol. My poor body thinks its pregnant, and deep in my heart I know I was but probably am not anymore 😔 unless by some miracle my bloods come back high. I suppose until then I just need to stay in limbo

I just hate feeling the signs of being pregnant but it not being real

I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I hope the doctors can give you a clear answer and I wish you luck for the future.

Thank you so much. We've been trying for 10 years, nobody really understands how hard that is. People think trying for a few months and it not happening is hard lol the joys of pcos.... It really is the worst thing in the world for someone who wants a baby. I'm confident ivf will work, we won't stop until it does anyway 😊

Have you tried a clear blue digital test see what that says xx

@Whatinthe0 It's funny isn't it, the first BFN is probably the hardest, until the second, then the third... I can't imagine how you feel looking at these boards after TTC for 10 years.

From my perspective you seem like an incredibly strong lady. And I'd imagine you have an equally dedicated partner. Wishing you all the luck for the future, whether it happens naturally or via IVF I hope you get your sticky bean soon.

I think I've seen thousands of bfns lol I'm very used to it by now. The last mmc the line stayed very faint. This time was the darkest I've seen. But obviously it just wasn't meant to be. I feel so bad for my fiance, he's desperate for a baby. He keeps telling me it's not my fault, and when it's supposed to happen it will.... But I can't help feeling like it is. Its me that has pcos, it's my stupid body thats causing it. He's been tested and he's fine. It's me 😔 I've told him when we get ivf they can throw as many eggs in as they want 😂😂 surely one will stick. Thank you @Curiosity101 my fiance is an amazing man, and working very hard to allow us to get ivf, I will give him the baby he wants so much, I will do whatever it takes. And I can't wait to see the look on his face when I can finally tell him he's going to be a daddy. I imagine the day I can look at him holding his child for the first time, and remember it forever. It will be the most amazing moment of both of our lives. I've never seen him cry, but I guarantee the day he holds his son or daughter for the first time, he will cry with happiness 😌 the longer it takes to happen the more we will love them, because we have waited so long to meet them ❤️

I have everything crossed for you, but as someone previously said, it could be wise to prepare yourself for a mmc

I had one in july, my symptoms actually started increasing, & I’d gotten hope again, even after fainter tests. I never did miscarry naturally. The medical management failed twice and I ended up having surgery 27/07

I started ttc 12 years ago, however I’m in a different position as I’m with a different partner now, but I do understand how exhausting years of ttc is, & how much this must hurt after desperately wanting to see that line.

However it’s not over yet, lines are not an accurate way of seeing progression at all, & the only way is via blood tests, & an early scan at the EPU if that’s an option?

@Sansa87 I think after everything I've been through I'm fully prepared for this to be a mmc.
That's how I feel, like my symptoms are worse lately.
I will get the bloods done and then I will phone and figure out what to do next from there. I might really beg for a scan.

How did it go @Whatinthe0?

Fingers crossed for a positive outcome. I’ve been trying for over a year and had an ectopic removed two weeks ago. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling after 10 years. You are a superhero! Have you tried natural therapies (like acupuncture) and read the book ‘it all starts with an egg’?