Secondary infertility - anyone else?

[kworth]

We're now in month 10 of TTC baby 2 and I'm finding it so difficult emotionally because our DS was a happy accident and I therefore assumed we wouldn't have any problems conceiving a second time... I have PCOS and struggle with very irregular periods which makes ovulation tracking or similar almost impossible, and the doctor's won't help because I already have a child. It feels like a catch 22. I'm so grateful for my little boy but desperate for him to have a sibling. Has anyone else had similar experiences?

I'm in exactly the same boat. Cycle 9 for us heading into 10 and nothing. Got pregnant within a month first time round (with my ex husband worth noting). Dr not overly keen on helping as 'I should be fine'.
I don't have PCOS but also never imagined it would be this difficult second time round! My little boy is 5 and I'm desperate for him to have a brother or sister. It's really hard going through each month with disappointment

@kworth

@Rusty83 Difficult, isn't it? In honesty I didn't even know secondary infertility was a thing until I found myself googling! I think the thing I find hardest is that I know my body is capable of conceiving (because it has before) and yet it won't now... so it's difficult not to blame yourself.

I was exactly the same - pregnant the first month with my little girl, totally just assumed it would be the same the next time around - got pregnant after 18 months of trying (literally just as the GP was starting to think about referring us for some tests). Good luck!

We've been trying since DS was 1, he is now 6. I have PCOS and did have a miscarriage after we'd been trying about 2yrs. Over time I've resigned myself to him being an only. It's been hard, really hard watching everyone around me have 2nd or 3rd children, seeing their families grow as I'd hoped mine would. But more often now I see that he is happy as an only, he gets all our attention, we have money for days out and treats. If we had a child now it wouldn't be that close sibling bond of playing together that is in my head and I know that isn't guaranteed anyway.

Not sure why I'm posting! Nice to know I'm not alone in struggling a 2nd time, acknowledging the pain.

I conceived by son on the 2nd month of trying. Been TTC a 2nd baby now, 13 cycles in and nothing.

I've been referred on NHS but as I'm almost 37 I don't feel like I've time to wait.

Good luck @Nichola2310. I was 37 when I got referred. Had my first child at 39. It's never too late

I was referred to the nhs because of secondary infertility. My first pregnancy didn't end in a live birth .