1 year TTC - fed up and down now

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Hi... just want to vent out my system tbh. I feel annoying even writing this out and frustrated. Me & my partner have been ttc for 1 year now. Literally nothing, each month getting harder and harder I’m currently crying writing this and I feel like I’m being cruel as I know there’s people on here who have been in worse situations & trying longer than me. I’m 24 been off the pill since September last year (yasmin pill) honestly don’t know what I’m doing wrong, feel when I was younger I did everything I could not to get pregnant, and everyone makes out if you have sex you’ll conceive just like that.

My partner has a child from previous relationship so I know that the problem doesn’t lie there. I also conceived when I was 18 while on the pill so I don’t know what it is. Doctors won’t do anything at the moment cause of COVID. I just don’t know where to go from here.

This is EXACTLY how i feel and could very well be me writing it, im on month 13 of ttc my first and like you my partner has a child from his previous marriage, im 31 so abit older than you and im still stuggling. Depending where you are i assume services are different but im in scotland and i have had day 3 bloods to check i have the right functioning hormones to ovulate and my partners had SA tests and that was satisfactory, we were told to keep trying every other day throughtout my cycle and go back at 18 months if still nothing. It is sooooo hard and really does get you down, iv cried when iv been on my own because like you i did everything i could to prevent pregnancy when i was younger and now that i know it doesnt just happen for some people that quickly i almost feel like im being punished for waiting so long to have children, try and find hope that people do fall pregnant after 1 year and that your not alone in how you feel xx

Are you using OPKs?

I'm sorry, I know it's so frustrating but many people do fall pregnant after a year.
I'm currently almost 23wks pregnant and tried for 18mths. I'm 42 so was referred for tests after 6mths and everything came back normal...we already have a 2year old (3 in December) so knew we had been able to conceive. When I turned 42 in May we withdrew from the Fertility Clinic and decided just to draw a line under things, move on, and be happy with our little boy. We only had sex once that month and before the "fertile week" and got pregnant with our little girl, due in January. Hope that offers some hope.