AF or BFN - which is worse?

[MilkshakeandChips5]

Hi!

We've been TTC for nine months now with not even a sniff of success. I'm currently CD28 and holding out on testing to wait for AF that is due today but dreading it every time I go to the loo.

For distraction, I was thinking which is suckier? Being proactive and doing a test only to get a BFN (but then you know to expect AF) or holding out the hope for AF not to come?

I'm not a tester (mostly because I'm cheap) but think I have some weird addiction to the hope. On the plus side, wine and chocolate when it doesn't happen is one benefit.

BFN can save you some waiting, but as you’re doing it there’s more of an immediate “this could be positive” in your face. And then a slightly bigger disappointment maybe.

Both suck, in slightly different ways.

I'll tell you what is worse ... faint positive and AF comes anyway. I'm not testing early anymore. I don't want the hope that then gets dashed.

For me personally, BFN is worse. Still hasn't stopped me testing though 🙄

@bitheby completely agree, that is definitely the worst