How does everyone handle disappointment of AF arriving!?

[sunshinecitrus1]

Hi Everyone

Today marked 13dpo for me and this afternoon AF arrived. It is my first full month since coming off the pill and TTC so although I knew it was possible, I wasn’t expecting to be pregnant this month as I think my timings were off. However it hasn’t stopped me feeling disappointed.

How does everyone handle the disappointment feeling? I want to try and stay positive and not start worrying that there isnt an underlying issue of some sort that has stopped me conceiving! ...Yes I am a worrier!

Thanks! xo

I start by having a drink 😂, then a few days after af start planning the best days for DTD and looking out for signs of fertility. Also try and keep busy with other things to avoid dwelling. Even for a young healthy couple there is only a 20% chance of getting pregnant in each cycle, so you've no need to worry yet 🙂.

Hi @xWaterfallx Thanks for the reply! I took your advice before you even told me... I’ve already had a G&T! I know I haven’t given things enough time yet but my OH is a little older than me... I’m 28 and he is 37 so I just don’t want it to take too long! x

@sunshinecitrus1 I'm in a similar situation as you, I'm nearly at the end of my 2nd cycle since coming off the pill, expecting af to arrive tomorrow or Sat, did a test this morning but got BFN ☹️. I'm 29 and OH 35, so I also would like to get the ball rolling quickly! Although men are able to have children much older than women, so you don't need to feel rushed. You've got 10-15 years left of fertility x

I was going to suggest the same as @xWaterfallx 😂 I usually get a bit rat arsed in a fun way and say "well I couldn't have done this if I'd gotten pregnant" 🤷‍♀️ Now I'm pregnant and I feel hungover af every morning anyway.
It is so disappointing though, I think it's important to acknowledge your own disappointment and allow yourself to feel the way you do. Otherwise it just builds up inside you. Take a day or two to wallow a little, and then move on. X