Pregnant after lots of bleeding?

[Chica1990]

Hi everyone, long time lurker here.

I’ve been ttc since July 2019 with no luck. This cycle has been pretty weird as I have been bleeding since my last period and started bleeding again with heavy cramps on day 22 (Thursday 24th). I even woke up early Sunday morning (cat woke me up) and noticed I had pains in my lower back.
Just because the cycle had been so weird I did a cheap strip pregnancy test Sunday morning and noticed a faint line on there. I’ve done more tests and even a digital (with my second wee of the day) and they all came back positive, days after I started what I thought was an early period. I was even wearing tampons on Saturday!

Do you think there is something else going on or have you experienced or know of a lot of blood with a positive at the end? I know some people aren’t aware they aren’t pregnant for a while and after this I can understand why! (If I actually am). My best friend who miscarried earlier this year said her pregnancy tests started showing negative before she bled at all.

If any of you can share your experiences or wisdom I’d really appreciate it as I’m so confused.. please also keep your fingers crossed this is the real deal!!

If it is the real deal and anyone is interested in knowing what new things I did this month I’m happy to share

[Kate105]

I’ve lurked on this post from the start but I just wanted to send my best wishes to you OP. I had my right tube removed three weeks ago due to an ectopic and while I was really sore for the first few days, you will feel better surprisingly quickly. It’s a really shit situation and it’s really unlucky since it’s so uncommon, but you’re not alone! I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all of this. Good luck xxx

[MF1981]

Sorry to hear this @Chica1990 - rest up xx

[Chica1990]

@kirinm I felt a bit silly for going through with at the time especially as I felt well in myself and wasn’t in massive pain but they did say it would have been unavoidable and definitely was the best thing to do! I feel really sore now (woken up and can’t get back down) and I’ve put put on a ward where there is a really unwell woman muttering to herself and making odd noises. Luckily I have my phone, Netflix and AirPods!
I did see your message before I went in but didn’t get a chance to reply. Thank you for taking the time to checki in on me throughout all of this and validating my concerns. It’s been a big help And reassurance especially as I hadn’t told many people at all due to not knowing what’s going on.

@Kate105 thank you for the well wishes. I’m sorry this happened to you too. I’m sure like me there you thought there could be no way you would be that unlucky. How are you now?

Thank you @MF1981. I wish I could sleep more tonight but I’ve been signed off work for two weeks so will have plenty of time to catch up!

Thank you again to everyone has posted during the past horrible week and a half! Fingers crossed I’m ok to go home tomorrow so I can start putting this behind me. I will have to wait another period before I can try again but after this experience I’m not too sad about the idea of a one month break Xxx

[Smoby]

Sorry to hear what you've been through OP. Wishing you a speedy recovery x

[Chica1990]

Thank you @Smoby and thank you for your previous advice too x

[LynzP85]

@Chica1990 I'm pleased you finally got some answers to what has gone on here but I'm sad it has ended this way. I had my fingers crossed for you.

Please make sure you speak to your GP and take some time off work, I took 6 weeks off after my miscarriage in July - I needed recovery time from the MVA procedure plus I wanted to stay off until my first period came as I had heard it can be quite heavy. Interestingly my first period (August) was light - about 4 days, and came a month after the procedure, however my September period was much heavier- I was changing tampons every two hours and had to wear pads at bedtime which I've not done for years so just a heads up your body might do things in a different order to what we expect.

We went back to trying after my first period, no luck last month, but we've just had my second ovulation cycle so fingers crossed this month.

Please also look into speaking to a counsellor, I also did this as I'm surrounded by 4 friends who are all due November-February and I wasn't sure how I would cope when their babies arrive. I've really enjoyed my therapy sessions - we've cover more than just baby loss so it's been really worthwhile.

Sending love xx

[Kate105]

Hope you’re doing ok today @Chica1990 it’s a bit rough to start with but just take all the painkillers they offer you! And if you’re on codeine then I would definitely treat myself to some laxatives 😂🙈

I’m three weeks post surgery tomorrow and I was back to work on Monday. I’m feeling so much better now although I’m only just losing the last of my stitches- whatever they tell you, they do not dissolve in 7-10 days!!! Emotionally I think I’m ok, although we’ll see if anything hits me retrospectively. But I do think the worst part of this was all the uncertainty and once I knew what the problem was and what I needed to do to fix it, it was still horrible but a lot less stressful. Xxx

[Chica1990]

@LynzP85 they did say I could contact the GP if I felt I needed more time off. I’m fortunate enough that I can work from home at the moment which does ease the pressure/stress of facing work if you get what I mean.
Thank you for the crossed fingers and I will have mine crossed for you to get a bfp soon.

@Kate105 I’m glad to hear you are feeling better. One thing I did forgot to mention (or maybe I did mention it) was I also needed a laparotomy to remove the ectopic due to it being larger than they thought as it was 8 weeks. Did you have the same and is it with this you had the stitches? They look bloody awful it’s like they are poking out. I think it’s actually the abdominal cut that is causing the most discomfort.

You’re right, it was all the uncertainty before which was upsetting and at least it’s done now. In hindsight it was all heading this way but I was in denial because I felt fine at the time. Hopefully I make a speedy recovery like you! I hope emotionally you will be ok too.

[Bizawit]

@Chica1990 I’m so so sorry you are going through this . Wishing you a speedy and emotional recovery.

Thank god you were able to get advice from this forum, from women who’ve been through similar, and advocate for yourself . This makes it all the more shocking how the first EPU treated you. I hope this all gets fed back and they realise how outrageous their behaviour was.

[Chica1990]

Thank you @Bizawit

I know, really thank god! I’m so appreciative, especially as I was so confused at the time. I think if I didn’t have the responses here to encourage me to keep questioning this (particularly @kirinm) I probably would have buried my head in the sand and gave up (until things went BANG).

I’m definitely going to raise a complaint about the EPU next week. Not everyone has the typical unwell and pain signals that’s in their textbook!

[kirinm]

Glad I could be of some use @Chica1990 just sorry you've had to go through this. I hate to be the person who brings up ectopics on threads like yours but heavy bleeding followed by positive tests just triggers that response in me.

I really think a complaint against the EPU is a good idea. No one is suggesting they would have discovered an ectopic at that stage but IMO they should have done repeat bloods. How hard is that?

How are you feeling?

[Chica1990]

I had heard of ectopic before obviously but I wouldn’t have considered it happening to me before. I can’t believe it’s as common as it is now I’ve heard the stats on it.

I’m feeling more myself today but really tired. I slept surprisingly well last night considering I usually sleep on my front but had to stay flat on my back. My mum booked this week off to stay at home with me while the OH is at work and it’s been really nice having the company :) xx

[Kate105]

Glad you’re doing ok @Chica1990! I wasn’t as far on as you so managed to escape with keyhole surgery thankfully. However I was horribly lumpy for the first week or so, to the point where I was actually worried that the surgeon had been really messy and I was going to have these awful scars! But after that everything really did settle down a lot so don’t worry, that will improve eventually! Glad you’ve got your mum for company, that’s really lovely xxx

[kirinm]

This thread fell off my active list and I couldn't find it.

How are you doing @Chica1990 ?

[Chica1990]

@kirinm I’m doing ok! The days since I came home have passed surprisingly quick. I decided to tell my friends rather than keeping it secret (I hadn’t told them I was even trying before) and they have been incredible. They have spread out seeing me weekend just gone and this week so I have a visit to look forward to every day and have been spoiling me with pampering treats and flowers.
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders by telling them everything and it’s been weirdly liberating. I like to think if they have a positive test under weird circumstances they can come to me and I can encourage them to get to the bottom of things too.
I’m going to have this week off work to really relax, I want to be sick of sitting down and really be ready to go back!
Mentally I’ve been thinking about the loss more than I expected, but I know it’s normal. Hopefully when things go back to normal I won’t think about it as much. I’ll be booking in for my infertility appointment as soon as I get my next period but I’m worried they won’t want to see me now!

Sorry for the long update. How have you been? Thank you for being kind and checking in on me. I would love to send you something as a thank you but I appreciate it can be weird to send your address to someone online. I’m just so grateful I’ve had you there all the way through! I’ve been lucky.