How do you keep your sex alive!?

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Hi guys!

Me and hubby have been trying for 3 months without success. Onto the 4th this month after AF goes.

I just feel that our sex is becoming regimented. It’s the same thing - it’s right let’s have a routine and it’s so boring. It’s like we are doing it because we have to. Has anyone every felt like this and how do you overcome this? Any advice would be appreciated!!!

Sorry did you mean how do we keep our sex life alive? If so then around your fertile week try and think about everything except babies. I know it’s very hard to do and much easier to say but maybe do little things like dress up in something sexy, add more foreplay etc. In the end the destination is the same but if the journey can be a little more exciting it’ll feel less like a chore x

I hope I answered the question, sorry if I’ve misunderstood!

Hi @CalmDown7 that’s exactly what I meant!! I know and I always try not to think about it! It ends up turning into a tick box which isn’t how it should be!

We had the regimented issue. Each month was the same, sex in the fertile window and then maybe at a push once a week during the rest of the cycle. This went on for 10 months. I was tracking with OPKs, apps, checking CM and took the passion out of sex completely.

I then got pregnant but had a miscarriage, my AF hasn’t returned. But what I have done is not really look at the apps, not done OPKs etc. Went on holiday and had sex everyday, it was great. I did have a couple of weeks where the no AF/no BFP thing got to me and stopped having sex as thought what’s the point but this past weekend I’ve felt more like myself and relaxed and had sex 3 times in 24 hours just because I wanted to, without the thought of I need to get pregnant. I’ve had some nice times with hubby and that’s all that matters to me at the moment.

It’s hard to relax though, especially when everyone keeps getting pregnant but tbh I feel much better this past week where I’ve been more relaxed xx