TTC but 2nd wave of Covid-19 worry

[MontyFALD]

Long story short
We were TTC for a year, 2 MCs - then Covid hit and we decided to stop trying. We said we would 100% try again in September 2020.

Now we're here and 2nd lockdown is about to begin and we just don't know what to do! We are literally 50/50!

I'm worried that the baby would miss out of grandparent cuddles etc when born if the virus continues.

I also worry about my access to health care - as it would be my first I wouldn't have a clue what's going on!

Thirdly missing out on meeting other local parents :(

Our lives are good at the moment stable jobs good house and we're in a good position mentally and physically.

Anyone else postponing due to possible second wave??

Hi, we were in the same position in March, began TTC then stopped when Covid hit. We've now decided to wait until December/January time. I don't think a second wave would bother me anymore, it was more the unknown that stopped us as it was new and there was no knowledge of the risk catching it could while pregnant. I think now I would go for it as it seems there's no greater risk if you're healthy during pregnancy and hopefully by the time a baby's here things will be better 🤞

I thought about it but personally we are going ahead as you just don’t know how long ttc will take or how long covid will be around for.

I am currently pregnant on DC2. I am due in 6 weeks. I found out 2 weeks before lockdown. We weren't exactly TTC.

I think kids are a long term thing, so thinking in terms of first cuddles or baby groups is very short term. I wont lie, it's quite tough bringing a baby into this world at the minute. So much uncertainty! I am pretty worried. But, its so worth it. I will just have to be tough and cope with it all. I say if you really want a kid dont wait for some perfect non covid time. We could be living with this forever. Just go for it.

I've just had a baby so this is from my personal perspective. Most of my pregnancy has been during lockdown.

I kept thinking back in March that Covid would all be over by September and thinking I wished I'd waited.

The medical treatment I have received hasn't been compromised by Covid. I've been consultant led throughout pregnancy and have had a mixture of face to face and telephone appointments. To be honest phone appointments have been great because they've saved me having to drive 30 mins to the hospital!

The downside has been that my husband hasn't been able to come to any appointments and I found pregnancy quite isolating. I already have a 2 and half year old and most of my friends gave up social distancing so I felt I couldn't really see anyone as all the kids played together and it wasn't fair on my DS to not be allowed to get too close when everyone else was doing whatever they wanted.

The birth was great and my husband was allowed to be there when I was in active labour. He stayed for a couple of hours after the birth and then was sent home and wasn't allowed back in till visiting hours the following afternoon.

I'm in an area where the infection rates are still relatively low (a couple a day) so I've allowed direct family to hold the baby. I need the help of family with a toddler too!

I do feel sad that maternity leave won't be the same as last time without the baby groups and opportunities to meet other mums.

I don't think the virus is going away so you could be waiting along time. You'll decide whatevers best for you and your family.

We have been TTC for 2 years after a MMC. We decided to pause when this all kicked off and was due to start again in July, then we postponed to October and now we're thinking of postponing to January.

My reasons for not wanting to TTC is the restrictions with having partners at scans & the lack of care you can get if the worst does happen. I know it's a negative way to look at it but I don't think I could have a repeat of my previous pregnancy without my partner being there & limited treatments for MC.

It absoloutely kills me to wait because I'm beyond the point of desperate. I get quite upset at the thought of putting our plans for a family on hold even longer but sadly for us we have redundancies & a lot of stress that I just don't think would help me personally. I want to enjoy my next pregnancy as much as possible!

However I have a few friends who have got pregnant in the past couple of months and they don't mind the restrictions and they're happy with their choice. It's completely personal as long as you are happy with whatever you decide!