Crazy or justified to be taking pregnancy tests?

[holli6]

I'm 29 and I had 2 surgeries for endometriosis 2 years ago, despite that I was told there shouldn't be any reason why I can't conceive.

I'm long distance with my partner of 3 years, we saw each other for 3 weeks in September after 4 months apart (due to pandemic)

He proposed on the trip which was amazing and we had a lot of sex since we'd been apart for a long time.

I take desogestrel (progestogen-only pill) and we don't use condoms.

I had really bad food poisoning for over a week on the trip and I read that this can cause the pill to be ineffective. (I found this out only 3 days ago)
TMI, but I couldn't even keep water down so I'm pretty sure my pill didn't hang around very long.

A few days after I recovered from the food poisoning, I had some EWCM which I thought was weird since I don't get that on the desogestrel.

We continued to have sex after I recovered, and even though my period-tracker app said I would be ovulating around that time, we didn't use condoms because I only found out about the food poisoning/birth control issue a few days ago, I didn't know there was a chance we weren't protected.

We were intimate 2 days before and the day before I would have ovulated according to my fertility tracker.

So, I'm 14 DPO today, had a little tiny bit of bleeding today, no cramps, but back pain, bit of acne, bigger boobs over the last 2 weeks and nipples/boobs are really prickling and kinda red/sore looking, especially today. I also cried hard a lot for no reason at all over the last few weeks and I'm really not a regular crier. I had one morning where I felt nauseous last week and I struggled to eat.

My question is, am I crazy to think there's any possibility at all that I could be pregnant? Took a cheap test today and it was BFN. Fiance and I are not TTC, due to being long-distance. We're closing the gap and moving in together in December this year, but it's still not the best time for us if we were to get pregnant, although we would make it work

I put all these symptoms together and as a precaution, I stopped taking my birth control a couple of days ago until I can be sure I'm not pregnant.

I feel extremely stupid for thinking I'm pregnant but I feel like the right thing to do would be to wait for a definite no before I take my birth control. I'm going to keep testing for a few more days just in case and get back on the pill when I'm in the clear

I've never had a pregnancy or TTC so I'm totally lost with all of this
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Thanks guys :-)

Without tracking bbt it's impossible to know how many DPO you are for sure, so maybe you ovulated later than you think? This could explain a bfn. I think you're doing the right thing to be testing and pause your birth control (although I'm not sure if that would affect early pregnancy, I'm afraid). FX you get the result you want in the next few days.

RMarieClaire, that was really helpful thank you for the reply :-) I've never tracked bbt, just relied on the tracker app. I just did a quick google of bbt and what you're saying makes sense. I'll just wait it out for a few more days and test. I'll keep in mind the importance of bbt tracking for the future. Thanks again :-)

Could you get a blood test done?!

It’s possible that you could be pregnant yes, wait a few days and take another test. Tbh from reading your post even though you say it’s not a good time to be pregnant it really sounds like you want to be. Like why would you have a period tracker app when on the pill? Women don’t generally ovulate when on the pill so I don’t see any real reason to track.

I get that if you’re not living with dp and long distance it’s not ideal timing but it’s also ok to admit that you’d actually be really happy about it. Maybe this has made you think more about the possibility of it?

Hey Bumble84, yeah you totally got me hahah :-D
I would never be disappointed to be pregnant since I was an only child and didn't really have a family of my own. I cut contact with my relatives 6 years ago and won't make contact again due to them being abusive/unstable. I spent the last few years working on myself in therapy and I've been in this great relationship with my fiance who has an absolutely lovely, calm family. I also got a bit of a shock with the endometriosis diagnosis/surgeries, it did make me want to have a family more because there were points during that time when my fertility could totally have been taken from me. I'm in quite a nesting place in my life, moving to live with my fiance and just feeling nice about being around people I consider to be family. So yeah, I would not be upset at all if I do get a positive. My worry would be that since my fiance is slightly on the autistic spectrum, I think the best thing for him would have been to go through the change of living together as one separate thing, then later focus on the change of having a family. He's great and we'd cope regardless, but I feel protective of him and his stress levels. I have no idea what the outcome of this will be but I'm still having a lot of symptoms and will keep testing until the result is clear. I have the app because I record various other non-pregnancy symptoms there to keep an eye out for a possible recurrence of endo but do also get a little excited that I could use the app someday in relation to having a family. With regards to my finance being on the spectrum btw, we've talked about change in general, and he just prefers to do one big thing at a time if possible, and he copes really well like this. Too many big projects and he gets pretty down, so I keep an eye out for overwhelming him. Thanks for your reply, it helped me figure out how I feel :-)

XoJellyBean, yes I for sure could get a blood test, my partner lives in another EU country, so I've been self-isolating since I got back from visiting him. I haven't been able to go out for a blood test so just ordered the cheap One Step tests from amazon :-D Thanks for the reply

@holli6, I don't have anything to add to your initial post, but your comment about your DP being on the spectrum jumped out at me.
My DP believe he's on the spectrum (not formally diagnosed, but I 100% agree with him).
Just wanted to say you sound really in tune with his needs (quirks I call them in my DP) and whilst you're right changed can be unsettling, it sounds like you will help him adjust just fine.
I'm now expecting and wasn't sure if my DP would really get involved at such an early stage as it's still such an abstract concept, yet he's talking to bump already!

Good luck for what ever the result is, and for the rest of your future plans.
Congrats on the engagement too x

Belle1983, that's great to hear! and congratulations :-D When I met my DP he started saying things like "that's my autism" and "my autism made today hard" and we've had quite a few talks about it, he has a pretty clear list of things that he doesn't find very fun and doesn't prefer so that makes it easy to work with. I was aware there could have been stress signs from him about the change of us being engaged too but he's been super excited and energetic about it, way more than I expected. It's really great to hear about the way your partner has responded to the bump :-) My DP is a silent stresser, but it's still pretty obvious when he is stressed because he's just a little more quiet than usual and he won't be able to stop working, so I just give him a little space then eventually ask if he'd like to get anything off his mind because that might make him feel less busy. This usually works so I just do this every time and that way I know when he's unhappy/uncomfortable and we soon get to a place where he's comfortable because we talked it out. Thank you for your message, wishing lots of luck to you and your family :-)

@holli6 hey, I saw your post and just wanted to sympathise - i also have endometriosis and was on contraceptive pills, implants and most recently the mirena coil for years... Had my second extensive endo surgery in June and now DH and I are TTC. I think you are doing all of the right things, if you were sick this can make the pill ineffective especially if you miss more than a couple of days. Also, congrats on the engagement!!! Good luck and I hope you get the result you wanted. X

@Kirky658 Thank you for your message :-) Oh god, the mirena. I had such a bad time with that, had it fitted during my second surgery and it caused nothing but trouble. Eventually, the strings broke and they had a strong male nurse get it out while I was on gas/air. Horrible! haha.
My surgeries were extensive also, it's hard to get my head around the fact that they did so much work down there, but I'm still apparently able to conceive. I had a burst ovarian cyst and some cervical issues also, but I am always told not to worry about fertility. Hope you're recovering well from the second surgery and best of luck to you about TTC. Were you given any endo specific advice by any nurses or doctors about TTC after endo treatment? I always wonder if things are different for those of us who've had any kind of surgery on the reproductive system. I do worry about eventually coming off birth control, horrible mental health around my period was my main endo symptom to be honest. I had quite a lot of pain too, but I was managing it. The surgeries have helped a lot with mood for me, but the birth control helps even more. I think I'll have a bit of a bad time coming off it entirely. Good luck and well done for getting through your endo treatment :-)

Just an update, I'm still not seeing any hint of a second line on my tests and had a tiny bit more of a bleed, so at this point, I'm thinking we didn't conceive. Everyone who messaged back has been extremely helpful to me, so thank you very much guys :-) I was a bit shocked when I found out about I might have not been protected due to being sick while taking birth control and having the boob changes and the crying definitely made me think we got pregnant. I'm guessing I had those symptoms just due to the fact that there was no birth control in my system for that week, so my body was reacting to that and not a pregnancy. Glad I reached out and glad I tested just to make sure. The experience did make me realise I'd love to be pregnant so I'll keep working on making life the best it can be so we can eventually TTC. Very best of luck to you all in the future and thank you for help and advice! :-)

Thanks for the update @holli6 hope you are doing OK. So far with my recovery its been fine, I feel so much better than I did after my first surgery! I wasn't given any specific follow up relating to TTC after the surgery but I have a follow up next month with the consultant so will be keen to ask them for any info. Good luck for the future x