First miscarriage age 40

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I am looking for some positive stories 🙂

I have 3 teenage children. I fell pregnant on #4 after 2 years of trying but sadly miscarried at 6 weeks, which upset me more than I anticipated.

I am 40 (just turned this month) and am scared I won't be able to have another which especially upsets me as hubby doesn't have any children of his own and desperately wants one (we both do).

As much as I want to be pregnant again, I am also apprehensive because I miscarried the last time. Also, I'm scared it could take another 2 years as time is against us.

TIA for replies.

Hi lovely I am 40. Had my first mc this year actually 2 as had one last year. Have 2 ds one 15, other 4.
Had a successful pregnancy after mc but sadly due to medical reasons had to end pregnancy. I am deep for a third xx

@Jaysdream7 I'm sorry to hear that. I know age is a factor but honestly thought I'd be fine like my other 3 times.

Did you have trouble conceiving at all with the miscarried pregnancies and the one you sadly had to end?

I hope you're doing ok.

Go and see your Gp, as you are older they might do some investigations earlier.

I had 3 mcs from age 38, discovered a blood disorder, fell pregnant again and successful birth at 40.

It's worth having a chat with them, I didn't notify of the second miscarriage but she probably would have sent me for test at that point due to my age. I waited till the 3rd cos that's what the rules say.

Stay positive and good luck x

I had two boys in my 30s, then miscarried age 40 (at around 8 weeks if I remember right) but then went on to have a healthy baby girl when I was 41.

@Yukka and @daytripper28 thank you both for sharing your positive stories, certainly makes.me feel more hopeful. I will go and see GP asap.

Did either of you take a while to conceive?

I was ok conceiving but after 3rd miscarriage everything went wayward. I had fertility acupuncture as my cycles where everywhere, I had a very positive experience of this and would recommend.

It's a cliche but, that you got pregnant is a good thing, and secondary fertility issues (after previous success) aren't uncommon either. But it's still shit when it happens to you.

Sorry to be specific I think it took 8 months to conceive again after the last mc. Some people will say that now you have been pregnant, your body remembers and will get with the baby vibe..(!)

Don't give up it's highly possible given you did get pregnant.

I feel wayward in general right now 😅 8 months isn't too bad. I will definitely give the acupuncture a go, I believe in 'all that'.

Definitely trying to remain positive given that I have conceived without charting and ovulation tests etc. Just the realisation that miscarriage is more likely at my age has hit me like I wall. Feel like I was in this naive bubble before that if I got pregnant I'd sail through it again.

I had dd1 when I was 38 and became pregnant again just before I turned 40. I lost that baby at 9 weeks but became pregnant 3 months later and I'm nursing my dd2 (12 weeks old) right now. I turned 41 2 days after she was born.

Both full term pregnancies were very straightforward although I was encouraged to have an induction at 40 weeks with dd2 due to my age.

I hope it works out for you OP.

@theseriousmoonlight that's really positive! I'm hoping now I have conceived something will kick in with my body and I'll conceive a lot quicker this time. If only my body was as young as my mind.

I had a miscarriage age 39 after my 2 dc. Turns out I was slightly hypothyroid. Once the medication kicked in, I've fallen pregnant easily. I did follow the advice in 2nd Ed It Starts with the Egg, which I think helped!

I miscarried at 39, fell for my dd ( now 11mths) just before my 40th (about a week before). I had another miscarriage in June this year, we are trying again at the moment hoping one sticks soon.
My doctor has said as I’m fit and healthy my miscarriage were just down to bad luck. If I have another they will send me for tests.

@Livingmagicallyagain I have had blood tests and all was ok but I'm not entirely sure what they have tested for if I'm honest. Lovely that you are able to conceive easily! I have on my previous pregnancies, I just automatically out it down to age which I think may not necessarily be all that is at play.

@Em39ma It's tough mentally isn't it. I too and fit and healthy, BMI etc all within range, exercise regularly and all that. Fingers crossed it happens soon for us both. I really hope we don't have to go through another MC.

Ask for your results. For example, my TSH was only 4, but enough to cause problems and a long time trying to fall pregnant.

My baby was eventually born sleeping due to genetic issues and so after that I’ve taken the advice from that book very seriously and luckily fallen pregnant again. She was very possibly a factor so I’m really focussing on my health.

*Age, not she

I will do, thank you. Very sorry to hear you had to go through that. Hope you have a successful and happy pregnancy this time.

I had a miscarriage when I was 40, first pregnancy, but then went on to have DD two weeks before my 42nd birthday. she's now 11, sitting across from me, and watching some awful rubbish on TikTok . it is scary trying again after a loss, and only you will know if you are ready. Good luck.

Love this!!!! 🥰