How to deal with partners disappointment

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So we've only been trying for a few months and so far we've been unsuccessful. While I'm of the attitude of dusting myself off and trying again my poor other half is struggling.

He's been so down the past few days and it's really not like him. I asked today what's wrong and he just said he's so disappointed and feels really low. Has anyone else had this where their partner is struggling more? How did you deal with it?

He's so supportive asking how my BBT is etc each day and researching everything which is amazing but I just don't know how to help him feel better with this as I know it can take quite a while to get the BFP he so desperately wants x

My partner would sit and tell me that "next month will be the month" for a full year while I sat crying every month wishing for that BFP. It wasn't until we hit the year mark of trying that I saw a change in his mood, he went from being super positive every month to suddenly getting down when I would show him the negative results. We both decided after just over a year that we would stop trying due to the pressure& sadness of nothing happening, as soon as we stopped trying 2 months later I got the BFP!! Its so hard seeing a negative result month after month, i was constantly putting thoughts into my head that I could never get pregnant and that I was never going to be a mam. We now have our healthy 5 week old boy and couldn't be happier! Things will fall into place for you's and you will get that BFP soon!

I don't feel like I can give any advice OP, but hopefully it will help to know you are not alone. My OH always tells me how disappointed he is when we get the BFN, and every month he'll tell me how much he hopes this month is the month. I know he's not doing it to make me feel bad, and I'm glad he feels he can be open with me about how he's feeling - obviously it's nice too that he's so invested - but I end up feeling really guilty, like somehow I have failed him.

What we have found that helps is to use the months we don't conceive to do something positive - for example we get paid shortly after AF is usually due, so we'll buy stuff for our house instead to try focus on something else and use our money towards something positive. I know stress can impact on your TTC journey, so we try not get too down and look onwards to the next month!

@MF24
I've felt so guilty all evening even when I know it's not my fault. I feel helpless that there's nothing ai can do to make it happen really! That's a great idea to have a treat we could perhaps try that too if things get harder.

@watermelonsugar99 I've heard so many stories from people falling pregnant after deciding to have a break etc. We really do put so much stress and pressure on ourselves with it! Lovely news to hear you now have a gorgeous baby boy 😊 I hope you are all settling in well x