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BFN on clearblue and FRER this morning. Period due today or tomorrow.
I have been having slight nausea and really thought this was a sign. Annoyed at myself having wasted money on the tests.

You will def be knocked up by the end of October!
You will be here sharing the news very soon. You are young and healthy and there’s no reason why it shouldn’t happen after this cycle for you. The folic acid is good enough and ha you won’t be needing a year’s worth!
Oh god yes exactly what we found with the house prices. It’s all gone absolutely crazy. It’s mostly to do with the stamp duty holiday I guess. Oh Reading is only an hour away from us on the motorway and we did think if we get priced out of our area, we can move there as there’s a direct line to Paddington station for me to commute to work and the commute isn’t too long. We might revisit that in a year if we cannot find something within our budget in our area.

Will you be upset about having a scan alone? I am thinking that you will as it’s the first time for you and you do want your husband there.
For me it doesn’t bother me as I have had loads of scans by myself. With my daughter I was under the fetal medicine unit as she was always measuring small so I was being scanned every two weeks from 12 weeks. Actually she was so small they couldn’t even see her head properly during the 12 weeks scan and they had to call me to come back to measure her again. My husband also missed her birth as she in distress and had to come out quickly so by the time he rushed down to the hospital, she was already here. I also had my first scan at 5+5 weeks on my own with her as I work close to Harley street so was easier to go during my lunch break. Same with my son, I had loads of scans by myself. I am okay with the scans and appointments, it’s the birth part that worries me if I am left on my own. Do they have any special rules that they let the partners in for first time parents or it’s a blanket no no for very one? You must be worried about going by yourself.
I read somewhere that pineapple helps with the implantation so make sure to eat lots of them during your TWW. Not sure if it works or not but I did eat a small pack a day with my daughter and this pregnancy.

October couldn't come soon enough! But then I'd have to go through the dreaded TWW again! Funnily enough, this menstrual cycle has been so strange I had to talk to a doctor. My period ended after 2.5 days, much lighter and shorter than usual and the cramping in my ovaries and lower back hasn't stopped since I last ovulated, which was 3 weeks ago. I don't think I'm pregnant but she said I should take a test with FMU so tomorrow morning I'll use a FRER and see if anything comes of it, though I doubt it. If BFN and still cramping, I'll have to go and get checked out.
I think I would hate to have my first scan alone. It would be such a special moment that I'd want to share it with my husband. If the rules don't change by the time I'm pregnant, I think we'll have to go private. I'd rather pay than have my husband miss out on it. I think it's a blanket ban because my neighbours are first time parents and they couldn't go in together for their NHS scan so booked a private appointment.
Oh wow, you've had a lot of scans but it's good to know that the hospitals were really thorough when looking after you and your pregnancies and your children are fine and I have my fingers crossed for this one too. Giving birth alone would be a nightmare, even if my husband couldn't be there I'd want a family member or close friend so I'm sorry you had to go through it alone during your daughters birth but I guess getting her out was the priority and the safest thing to do.
I've seen posts here and there mentioning pineapple. I'll have to give that a go, definitely wouldn't hurt to try

Reading is a great place to live. I really like it. I still remember the first time I was in Reading, it literally felt like home. I felt really comfortable and I'm happy to stay here for the foreseeable future. You should definitely consider it. It's got a good mix of people and great schools including grammar schools. The connection to London is good like you mentioned and I find it very easy to drive round the M4/M25 to visit my family in London. How are you finding the mortgage side of things? I'm guessing you have equity in your current home so can put down a bigger deposit but do you find it's getting harder to get one? I'm really worried we'll struggle to buy.

Hey how are you? Do you think the cramping is to do with the pregnacare tablets you were taking which changed your period? Keen to hear about your result in the morning
Oh that’s terrible about being alone during the scans, it’s horrible if bad news are given. Think partners or one other person should def be allowed esp for 12 and 20 weeks scans which are so important.
Will you be having a harmony test? I usually have one and also find the sex of the baby super early like at 10 weeks. My husband isn’t keen at this time but I do want to know so guess who wins hahahaha
It will be a pretty amazing time for you and your husband for the first scan! It’s like watching a miracle on a screen! At least private places are allowing partners in otherwise will be a pretty miserable time for many women. Pregnancy is already so taxing on a woman and having to go through it all alone is pretty miserable.

Oh yea def give the pineapple a go! Might be nothing, might be something. Guess we will know when you test

We do have over 100k plus equity in our current property but it doesn’t appear to be enough to get a decent house. All the houses which were 400k a year ago, have shot up to 500k. It’s absolutely crazy and the best thing is I think to sit and wait for the market to calm down a bit. The only concern about moving away is the kids have all these clubs and the school is outstanding so will have to lose all of this and restart again plus all their friends are here. I don’t know.

I love how you have described Reading. It sounds like you have reached home and you love the place. Don’t worry, you will be okay to buy as long as you have a minimum of 15% deposit and have stable jobs. You don’t have to buy a great place to start with. Your starter home can be a one bed flat as long as it’s in a great location near amenities and it doesn’t require a lot of work, have a long lease, service charges aren’t huge, you can sell it within 2/3 years and will make some money out of it and can then move to a bigger place. You can have a baby in a one bed flat. Start small and you will be fine. The first step is the hardest but you have everything going for you and everything should work out and fall into place for you.

I'm good thanks, yourself?
I'm not too sure because the doctor said that the vitamins shouldn't be affecting my cycles so I don't really understand what's happening with my body. I'm expecting a BFN anyway so don't really have any expectations but I'll let you know how it goes. Maybe it'll be an unexpected surprise.
I didn't even think about the bad news side of going for a scan alone but the thought of it is so painful, my goodness, the poor women who may have gone through something like that during this pandemic. My heart breaks for them! Just done a google search on a harmony test, never heard of it before. I don't think I'd do one, there wouldn't be much I could do to change my child's genetics but I get it's worth doing one for the peace of mind and also preparing for anything that may come up in the test. Have you booked your test yet?
What are your thoughts on finding out the baby's sex early? Do you think knowing makes things easier, like clothes shopping? I'm not too fussed really but I've never been pregnant before so maybe there are some benefits that I'm overlooking.

You guys are in a really good position with your house deposit. We're looking at houses around 450k but have only managed to save around 50k, if we give ourselves a few more months we might be able to get 15% so will probably have more mortgage options soon. We did think about whether to get a starter home or go straight for our forever home and I think for us, we'd rather go straight for the big house and not think about moving for at least 10 years. Plus we love hosting so space is really important to us. I have a huge family and his family are in another country so we're also thinking about where everyone will stay when they visit! Plus we both work from home, so office space is a must. A big house just makes sense

I forget that when moving, you need to think about things like kids, their schools, their extracurriculars. You can clearly tell I'm not a mother yet! Haha! But you're right, you need to make good decisions for everyone. I guess it's a decision you have to make with your children as well, see what they want. How old are they?

Hey did you test?
I also want the big house
Kids are 4.5 and 2.5. Boy just started school last week. Will come back later as I can hear them fighting!!

Yup, just tested. BFN as expected. Still got a stitch in my side so I'll book an appointment with my GP. Only God knows what my husband's sperm has done to me. Little things probably swimming around causing havoc!
I guess you were up early for the school run? That's definitely not something I'm looking forward to. I love my bed.

Oh I was so hopeful for you. Are you upset? Hopefully things resolve itself? Are you worried?
Sadly we all have fallen sick probably a bug my son caught from school and they were up being sick and crying all night, barely got any sleep so just came to bed for a little sleep. I am on annual leave, back to work in Monday. In case you are wondering why I am sleeping at this time of the day!

Once you have your baby, your bed will become a long forgotten memory

I haven’t replied properly to your last message but will do

I'm not upset. I accepted that I wasn't pregnant before AF came. I just didn't like being in limbo with AF suddenly stopping. But now I know I'm not. So I just have to wait for one more AF and then we start trying properly! GP is booked up until October so I'll just wait to see how this cycle goes and whether the cramping stops.
Oh get well soon! Kids are always catching bugs, and now we're approaching the colder months, it's only going to get worse. I hope it's nothing too serious?
The thought of getting so little sleep is not fun! I get so cranky when tired, I guess I should cherish these months before I have a little one keeping me awake all night and day!