Could I have missed it? 🤷🏼‍♀️🙏🏻

[Moominmiss]

So immensely 12 cycles into ttc and this is the first time my body has me totally confused.

My guess is that I haven’t ovulated yet this cycle, or won’t.

My ‘usual’ cycles are around 29 days. And I ‘usually’ ovulate somewhere between cd13 and 16.

I used to ovulate on cd22 so about 4 months ago started taking soy isoflavones to bring it forward, which it did each month to the days above (between 13 and 16). All good.

I’ve had day 21 bloods done, along with day 3 and all numbers are really good, progesterone levels show strong indication of ovulating etc.

So I’m currently on cd16 and started doing opk’s around cd10 to hopefully start catching the rise like I usually do. I can usually see the test line getting gradually darker until I get a clear peak, then it usually goes negative pretty quick after.

Anyway since starting opk’s this cycle I never saw any second lines at all, so feeling pretty disheartened at not even a hint, I binned the tests pretty much as soon as I did them and figured what was the point in testing more than once a day because any other time previously I’d see a line getting gradually darker and this time there were barely squinters.

This morning another test and another barely there line. So out of frustration I rooted through my bathroom bin and picked out all the opk’s I’d done so far this cycle.

I’ve no idea what order they should be in, but I know that the bottom test is this mornings.

Do you think it’s at all remotely possible that I’ve just missed picking up my peak? Or is it more likely, like I’m assuming that I’m just nowhere near yet, or for whatever reason I’m just not going to ovulate this cycle?

It’s just so frustrating to not know what’s going on in my own body.

I know nobody can tell me what’s happening, I just wondered if anyone had ever totally missed catching their peak, or even a high reading, and still ovulated, just without realising 🤷🏼‍♀️

Clutching at straws I guess, and just hoping for a normal cycle, not one where I’m waiting longer for af to arrive, or one where af doesn’t arrive and I just go into next cycle etc. Will just make tracking so much harder!

God the typos 🤦🏼‍♀️ Stupid phone autocorrecting.

You could have missed it, or you could be uet to ovulate! How often a day are ypu testing? I started using opks last month for the first time, never got a peak and am 7+5 and saw a healthy looking baby with a heartbeat yesterday! I've attached my opks, I'm guessing my peak was overnight on the 16th...

Thank you @Workingmama1, well I was only testing once a day because the lack of even a hint of a second line made me think I was just wasting my time and wasting tests.

Yesterday I did 2, one morning, one evening, but still nothing.

I’ll test again later on today, but nothing seems to be gearing up to darker tests at all.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I wish I could have hope but your opk’s were way darker than mine have been. The darkest I’ve had so far this cycle is nowhere near as dark as any of yours.

I have in the past hour felt some painful twinges low down on my right side where I’ve felt ovulation pain in the past, but I’m reluctant to think anything of it because of the lack of positive, or even close to positive tests!

All I can do is keep testing and hope I just haven’t ovulated yet!

@Moominmiss Honestly feel you completely.
I had a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage at 5 weeks at the end of June. Previous to this my cycles were 28-30 days and I ovulated CD14-16.. my cycle last month (The first one after the CP/MC) was a 38 day cycle and I didn’t ovulate until CD25!
This is now my 5th cycle TTC, my 2nd after the MC and it’s CD20 and I was suspected to ovulate on CD17 on both apps and I still have nothing 😔 I am testing twice a day since CD9 and since CD12 they have all had a very faint second line but no peak.

I expected a messed up cycle last month but thought that would help me reset. We have DTD 8 times in the last 10 days and going to keep going until I get the peak but it’s so hard just waiting for it when perhaps I some how missed it! I’m also temping and had a pretty big rise today but still negative OPK!

@Littlebee1990 I’m really sorry to hear about your loss, it’s horrible.
I know how you feel, I had a loss at 9 weeks in January and then 2 chemicals, the latest being in June. But what’s annoying me is even having chemicals didn’t seem to affect my cycles at the time, I still ovulated fine afterwards and my cycles didn’t increase dramatically in length or anything. Yet now, when there’s nothing really to suggest anything’s wrong, my cycle decides to have a wobble!

Like you we’ve dtd plenty, cd5, 6, 8, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15. We’ll carry on just because that’s pretty standard fir us anyway, it’s just frustrating. Normally once I know I’ve ovulated if I want to take my foot off the gas a bit then I can and not worry it’s going to affect our chances, but now, this time because I don’t know if I’ve ovulated and missed it, or just not ovulated yet, I feel like we can’t let up anytime soon and at this rate will just have to keep going until af arrives at some point!

I don’t temp, but sometimes wish I did as it might confirm to me what’s going on. Doesn’t a big temp rise indicate ovulation? Or just a surge that it’s about to happen? I’d be more inclined to believe your temps than an opk.
Let me know how you get on. I just feel super annoyed. If I have to wait til cd22 like it used to be then that’s still 6 days away until I might even get a peak so will make this cycle super long as I have a 13 day luteal phase!

Hi @moominmiss tracking your temperature would help as a shift in temperature happens as a result of ovulation (so can confirm it happened) whereas the opks just detect a surge in LH hormone.

If it helps I had a surprise ovulation last month... i was testing daily with opks as you were and got nothing darker than you did, but I had a shift in temperature upwards so must have ovulated and missed it.

@Kay00 thank you. I’ve thought about temping but I feel it’ll just end up with me more obsessive than I am already and I really wanted to avoid it if I could. Plus I wake several times in the night for the toilet and to let my new puppy outside so I don’t think I’d get accurate readings anyway.

I’d love to think I’ve ovulated as normal and just missed catching the surge but I haven’t had any of the usual post ovulation symptoms like sore boobs or anything so not convinced it’s happened yet.

@Moominmiss I’m so sorry for your losses too. Temp dropped this morning and still negative OPKs.. honestly really getting me down. I should be in my TWW wait now but instead I’ve not even ovulated!!

Hi @Littlebee1990 , don't let it get you down, in the last two months I ovulated on CD32 and CD26 so you have plenty of time yet!

@Littlebee1990 sorry your temp dropped this morning. I haven’t even tested today. So fed up of seeing nothing. I might just tell oh we’ll have to just dtd every other day at least from now until I get af (or a bfp lol) and that way I’ll know we’re covered.
Just feel super annoyed as it was only last month I had my bloods done that confirmed ovulation was happening etc.
Try not to let it get you down, I know how you feel, I really do, but as @Kay00 said, as frustrating as it is, you still have plenty of time to ovulate. Fingers crossed it happens soon fir us both!

(I know this isn’t positive) but just had some EWCM and this is the darkest it’s been so I’m hoping ovulation is imminent 🤞🏼

I've never had a "true" positive OPK. Just EWCM, a bit of cramping and a slightly darker line on some days. It's nearly impossible to pinpoint for me.

So no real advice you may have missed it- do you get EWCM or any other indications?

@Littlebee1990 sounds like it is on its way (or has just happened), keep testing today and tonight - good luck!

Tested again before I go to bed and it’s got darker and I’ve had the usual ovulation pain in my left side so I think it’s happening! DTD today, yesterday, Sunday, Friday and Wednesday and will also do tomorrow and Friday to be safe.. 🤞🏼

@Littlebee1990 that’s amazing!! I’m jealous. Still nothing for me, I’ve not had a line as dark as ours at all this cycle.
Good luck! Will let you know if I ever get a line 😩

Finally!! I took your advice and kept with it, I’m sure you either missed yours or it’s a late month. Keep me posted and just have lots of sex 🤣😘

Sorry to jump on here. Just want to say that it's soooo easy to miss a peak. I roughly know when I'm about to ovulate (irregular but I'm watching CM like a hawk) and mine can go from low LH to peak and back down within a matter of a few hours. Some might call it obsessive, but if I don't test every couple of hours I'd 100% miss it. 🙈

@Littlebee1990 so happy for you! Hoping mines just going to arrive late like yours, or that I somehow just missed it.

@NoCallerID thank you! That actually makes me feel loads better! Would be amazing if that’s the case. I just don’t feel as I usually do post ovulation 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Moominmiss PS so glad to see I’m not the only OPK stacker 🙄😬🤣 Keep me posted! X