Trying for June baby, am I being silly?

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So, AF has arrived after my 4th cycle trying after a miscarriage earlier this year. I basically need someone to shake me and tell me I’m being silly, but I’m now concerned if I get pregnant next cycle, the baby will be born in summer and therefore struggle in school! I know I’m being silly, and should probably focus on getting pregnant first, but it’s always in the back of my mind! This is will (hopefully) be our first baby and the miscarriage shook me a bit... tough love please!

Yes you are being silly

There are so many things that we can't control and we are lucky if we have a healthy child at all

What is the difference between now (may birth) or last month (April birth)?

As you know you'd be lucky for it to work out at all. Imagine if you didn't try this month and never got pregnant again...

My DB was born 30 August and is a professor.

August baby here. I was always top of my class. My sister the same. Seemed to be an even distribution of birthdays at my grammar school. Surely genetics is the biggest factor? Are you smart? Is your partner?

My husband and I are summer birthdays and both went to oxbridge, lots of our friends from there are summer born too. It's one factor but it's not everything, I think parents make a huge difference by reading and talking to their kids lots.

Sorry for your loss

As PP have said, it’s not as clear cut as “Summer baby = struggling at school” so don’t fixate on that.

Impossible to plan. Go for it and you can I'll be thrilled for a July/August baby. Also impossible to know how it'll play out. My mid July baby was born in June.

Much more likely to have a sunny birthday party too!

Thanks for your lovely replies, they’ve made me feel a lot better. I have little experience with children so I just assume the worse! Better warn my partner he’s got another ‘active’ month to look forward to

My daughter is a July birthday and started school last year. I was so worried but she settled wonderfully and tbh a large percentage of them are summer birthdays. My daughter even has some degree of sen (speech delay and a mild physical disability and she's don't just fine and loves school).

Schools are very well prepared for this and know that there will be a difference between an older birthday and a summer birthday.

August baby here - in fact I was the youngest in the school when I started reception. I was always in top set and have a masters.

I've had 3 miscarriages and I will be happy whenever my baby is in my arms, regardless of when they were born. Best wishes and I'm sorry for your loss ❤️