Success after missed miscarriage

[Peblet]

Hey Guys,

Hope you’re all keeping well :)

I found out I had a missed miscarriage on Monday at 11 weeks, baby stopped growing at 7,2 although I had a private scan at 8,2 showing heartbeat and everything fine but I believe the baby can shrink so still unsure of when this really happened.
The whole thing has been a bloody living nightmare which I’m sure a lot of you will understand..I know this has been asked so many times before but just wanted to hear some success stories from anyone, terrified of going through this again...Also did anyone seek counselling or support groups after their loss?

Thank you 🙏🏻😊

I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s such a shock isn’t it especially after seeing a heart beat.

I wanted to give you a positive story, the exact same thing happened to me and it was so hard at the time. I got pregnant quite quickly after and I’ve now got my baby. I was a nervous wreck throughout my pregnancy I won’t lie but it was all ok in the end and I’m sure the same thing will happen to you too xx

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me, that’s really comforting to know and I’m glad you have your baby :)

Hi @peblet I'm so sorry for your loss, it's so heartbreaking.

I had a MMC in April (baby measured 6 weeks but didn't miscarry until 11, no intervention offered as we were in peak lockdown. It was a really difficult time. Take care of yourself and the time you need to recover physically and mentally. I didn't have counselling but did speak to the miscarriage association helpline which was helpful.

I'm not 7 weeks pregnant with my rainbow. I'm not going to lie I'm a bag of nerves!

There is a thread here called starting ttc after missed miscarriage where there are a few of us who have been through this. I think 4-5 of us have had bfp nows!

Sorry for your loss. Hang in there... it's super common and doesn't mean it will happen again!
In early 2018 I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks, went for an early scan as felt something wasn't right (the few symptoms I had seemed to have just stopped). Scan confirmed stopped developing at 7 weeks.
I had EORPC operation end of February and then fell pregnant again end of April (second cycle after the miscarriage). Pregnancy was textbook, an absolute breeze, problem free and I now have a very healthy, happy 18mo daughter.

@Workingmama1 Thank you for your message! It’s a terrible time at the moment but I know there will be brighter days...Congratulations on your pregnancy I’m sure you will be great this time, I’ll join the thread xx

@EJB1982
Thank you, I had D&C on monday, feeling nearly ‘normal’ physically today, just tired but that’s probably from all the crying!!
I’m just going to concentrate on being healthy now and hope I’ll have better luck next time.

One thing that always played on my mind was my lack of morning sickness, I never felt nauseous once and I know this can sometimes be related to MS. Hoping to feel different if I get pregnant again so the outcome is different.

Thanks ladies 😘

My only symptom first time was tender breasts which stopped after a few weeks and is why I got suspicious and went for an early scan at the EPU.
Second time I actually had no symptoms at all, not even tender breasts. The first 12 weeks were the longest of my life as I was determined not to go for an early scan and just wait and see. I continued to have no symptoms of any kind throughout the entire pregnancy and everything was absolutely fine. Hope that helps to reassure. It’s so hard not to second guess everything.
X

It’s a mind field isn’t it! I guess you just never know..yes if I get pregnant again I’m not sure I’ll go for an early scan just makes things more real then worse if it all goes wrong xx

So sorry for your loss

I had a MMC when dd was 28 months old. We found out at 12 week scan that baby had stopped growing around 7 wks

The empty feeling after the D&C is horrible; awful you are going through that

I then had a chemical pregnancy a few weeks after, but conceived successfully 4 months later and ds is now 11

Look after each other (my DH was devastated too) and good luck for the future 💐

Hi @jackstini

Thanks for sharing, yes we are good at talking to each other so just making sure we continue with that, glad things turned out well in the end xx

I'm in the same group as @Workingmama1 and they're all so supportive and she's right, a few of us have now had our BFPs.
I found out I had a blighted ovum at my 12 week scan, at the end of March, all alone because it was peak lockdown, I miscarried the same day my MIL died, so as you can imagine, it was quite a distressing time. I found out I was pregnant again on my DS 4th Birthday, at the end of May, but lost it a few days later, just before the 5 week mark.
I'm now 8 weeks pregnant, and feeling sick as a dog, Hyperemesis is awful, but I'm looking at it as a positive as I had it with DS, but didn't have any sickness at all when I was pregnant with the MMC. And to top it off, my due date for this pregnancy, is the year anniversary of when I lost my MIL and finally MC... if that isn't completely bonkers?!
Positive things will come your way, and it happens quite quickly after a MC for most people. So I hope it happens for you too 💗

I’m so sorry you’re going through it.
I’m 7mths pregnant. I found out at 12wks baby had stopped at 10weeks. I got pregnant 3rd month after. Took me a year to conceive the baby I lost.
I’m on a group with other people expecting soon. So many of us had miscarriages just before.
Chances absolutely strongly are that you’ll go on very soon to conceive and have a healthy pregnancy. Your body just needs a bit of time to heal and for you to grieve.
I hope you have strong support

Hi @RosieJess91

Thanks for your message, sounds like you have had a terrible time, life can be very cruel!
Sounds like things are going well, horrible being sick but comforting to know you had the same with your DS.

@Edinburghfalls
Thank you, yes I have good support, I’m finding it comforting to speak to other women that have been through the same and understand how it feels.
You must feel amazing that you are 7 months! Exciting times ahead!
💕

So sorry for your loss! I had a mmc in April 2019, which I found out at a scan at 9 weeks. Baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had surgical management at 12 weeks. I had some sessions of councelling afterwards which helped a bit.

I fell pregnant again in December after (another) 8 cycles of trying and I am now 36+6 (full term tomorrow!) with my baby girls.

I'm not going to lie, the first 12 weeks I was absolutely a bag of nerves but I didn't relax fully until after 24 weeks.

Mmcs are truly horrendous, really awful. Remember though, the odds are in your favour for next time.

Baby girl I mean - only the one.

Hi @Chanel05

Thanks for sharing your experience, great to hear you are full term too! There is hope!

Did you have any early scans second time round? When I spoke to the nurse at the hospital she said I shouldn’t have the private scans as they could be anyone and if I want an earlier scan to tell my midwife I have pain..all seems a bit wrong though.
I don’t have a problem paying but I want it to be done properly xx

@Peblet I had an early scan at 7+1 (I actually had a panic attack before the scan in the waiting room as I was so anxious) and I had another at 10+5.

@Chanel05

Oh god that’s awful! Yes I think I’ll be the same, I got myself in a right state before my private scan and that was when I thought everything was fine! I’ll see how I go, need to get pregnant first! 🙋🏻‍♀️