TTC baby 2

[looloo247]

Currently feeling a bit downhearted - DS will be 3 in November and we've been trying to conceive number 2 for over a year now with no success. Took us 9 months to conceive DS so wasnt expecting it to be quick but now we've crossed the year mark I'm feeling really disheartened about it all. At the same time I feel guilty about feeling like this because I know I've already got DS1 - a total mix of emotions! Anyone else in a similar situation?

@looloo247 we are trying for number 2 also have been since March, I know it's not as long as you. My daughter is 8 and it took us a long time to decide to try. I'm feeling really down as period due tomorrow and I've felt ill since last week. Sore boobs etc but don't think it's our months again.

It's hard to keep positive xx

@looloo247 we are trying for number 2 as well. A bit different to you as we started trying in December and got BFP first cycle but had an early mc in Jan. Got another BFP in March but found out in May it was a MMC. We’re now on cycle 2 since then. I’m trying to be relaxed about it but equally feeling the time pressure a lot more than with DC1 as I didn’t want too big an age gap.

Hey hun, same boat here!!

Took 19 months with DS1, he is now 15 months been trying a year, thought we would start early given how long it took.

Extremely disheartened now. Feel guilty for moaning to anyone about the lows and I already have a baby. But that doesn't take away how it feels. Secondly, it makes it worse in a way and I want to give him a sibling! Xx

It's somewhat comforting to know that I'm not the only one feeling a bit down about it! What doesn't help is the assumption that everyone has that it's "time for a brother/sister" and they think it's easy because we've already had one child. I've given up responding to the comments with much more than a shrug!

I totally agree with you!! It's like because we conceived one, they think as soon as we start trying we will conceive another.

No one understands ferility issues until they go through it!! Xxx

Totally agree with you all. For us it's not been as long at all, 8 months, but I have known fertility problems and it took us 3 years to conceive our first so I'm feeling quite low. I don't know if there's less support out there as well because it's secondary?
Totally get what you mean about other's perceptions too. A lot of people don't even know we struggled so much first time around.

I totally agree with you. Sorry you are having trouble as well. Exactly that, no one knows that you struggle. It really does get you feeling lows

Not enough support either, I feel like no one understands, my friends don't understand, they tell me I already have one baby.

No help via IVF for secondary infertility, which doesn't help the stigma.

No one understands the feeling every month when you get constant negative tests. Only understand if you've been through it or are going through it xx