Worried about Covid/family events/conception

[Bells3032]

So my husband (29) and I (32) were looking to conceive later this year. The timing is mainly due to my husband's medical issues which at the moment means he's not producing sperm but he's now coming to the end of 2 years of hormone treatment and we are hoping he now will be (should know mid September). If he is we don't want to waste time as the treatment he is on may stop working or need to be stopped as there are risks involved in staying on it long term. Depending on the outcome we agreed to either start TTC naturally in October or start IVF/sperm donation in January.

We are meant to have two weddings in the Spring/Summer next year one of which is his cousin who he is very close to. I realised if Covid is still going strong by that point I wouldn't be able to attend even a small wedding whilst pregnant and he would miss his cousin's wedding (it is in a town about 2 hours away and would involve staying the whole weekend with all his family).

I know I am getting well ahead of myself but I am starting to have doubts about our timeslines. If it wasn't for his treatment/my age I would probably wait until the Covid crisis is over but we don't know if that will be six months or six years.

I am due to have my coil out in a couple of weeks and not sure whether I should postpone. I know the likelihood of conceiving even before next May given everything is low anyway but it's still making me a bit anxious.

WWYD? How do I calm my nerves?

Our wedding was postponed due to Covid and we have decided to TTC instead. We are still having a small ceramony in September and have postponed the 'wedding' until September next year, I can't say I considered stopping TTC because I'd Covid, in fact I guess it's kind of why we started earlier than planned. We are just going to go with the flow. I suppose it's personal choice whether you completely self isolate while pregnant, but I don't expect many pregnant women will be doing this long term. Also if large weddings can go ahead then surely it would be expected that Covid is under control? I'm slightly older than you (almost 32) and don't feel like we can put it off any longer/don't want to have all our plans ruined because of Covid x

*because of Covid

Oh sorry I totally got your ages the wrong way round! So we are basically the same age ☺️

Long term TTC/IVFer here - I really wouldn't put anything on hold. You don't know how long the TTC journey will take and you can cross the bridge of what to do about attending events at the time. I wish you all the best x

I agree with the PPs, I wouldn't wait, especially given what you've said about your husband's treatment. There will be a lot of heavily pregnant ladies right now that conceived long before there was a pandemic and who have had their whole antenatal care changed pretty much overnight. We just don't know what tomorrow will bring so why wait?

I feel that the biggest issue we can have with TTC, Pregnancy and Birth is to get too ahead of ourselves. Even under normal circumstances, pregnancies and birth aren't always convenient/don't go to plan. If you're pregnant and there are family functions then you can definitely decide what to do nearer the time.

Good luck with everything. Fingers crossed for you that the treatment was successful

Thanks for your advice all. think it's very hard to make these decisions when we really don't know what the future holds. It's a very scary decision at the best of times let alone now. Ok fingers crossed it will all work out ok