TTC - Thread 2- a lucky one!

[Blossom428]

Hi guys....
Thought I'd set up this new thread for us.
Tag anyone else from the group I've not got.

@AnxiousAnnie86
@Spinksy9 (thought I'd tag for you to check in with us after your BFP 😆)
@Chlo2701

How long do people normally see positive opks for? Still getting positive today, last few cycles it's been less then a day but this has been a day and a half and all very positive opks, so do you count ovulation from day after first positive or when they've gone negative? I would normally count 1dpo from temp rise but with ava it seems to take a few days x

@AnxiousAnnie86 I used to get a few days of recurrent stronger OPKs when my body was trying and failing to release an egg - in those circumstances I nearly always had a 50+ day cycle. I really really hope this isn’t what’s happening for you!!!
I’m on CD 42 now. 42 days is my longest “normal” cycle length. They vary between 34 and 42 days, and very occasionally a 50+.

@TheOrangeMonster I used to get a few days 2-3 of positives, then when I started taking soy is brought my ovulation forward to about 19-22 and I would have less then a day positive, this is the latest my ovulation has been in three months! I'm hoping when I get home tonight I will have a negative opk. My cycles are usually about 35 days long, apart from this month where if I ovulate today my cycle will be 39/40

Do you find you always have the same LP phase? So my cycles vary loads buT LP Is always 14 days, which leads me to think the issue is in the first half of my cycle..... x

@AnxiousAnnie86 what a painnnn! Yes, research has shown that LP’s are usually the same, the cycle length is determined by the timing of ovulation. Mine is always 13 days.
Short LPs are usually caused by a deficiency in progesterone levels causing the uterine lining to shed too soon - but not always.
I know this might sound silly but is there any chance your ovulation is being delayed by you stressing about it (I totally get that not stressing is impossible!!) I’ve definitely has cycles where my ovulation has been delayed nearly three weeks by factors including me stressing about it.
I understand that that isn’t really going to help you, but I honestly think at this point all you can do is just leave it alone. Think “a watched pot never boils” but much s**ttier. ☹️ I’m sending you lots of solidarity, I understand completely how you must be feeling having been there numerous times myself.

@TheOrangeMonster I think it most likely is due to the stress and overthinking it, I didn't track anything at all when I first came off the coil and had two regular cycles and became pregnant very easily, it's been since the mc when I started tracking they they have become more irregular x

@TheOrangeMonster it's the how in earth do I stop obsessing over it I'm struggling with,

@Chlo2701 @Mamainmaking1 @WaitingForEgg how you doing ladies? X

@AnxiousAnnie86 I usually get negative OPKs pretty much the day after.
I know, people always say wel you need to stop stressing and thinking about it and it'll happen- but what baffles me is when you know your trying to conceive there's not a chance you can stop thinking about it or worrying about it, as we are always waiting for that next step whether it's ovulation or the 2WW. I have to plan when my fertile week is and my peak other wise we would defo miss it. There's a lot of pressure I think. And so difficult to switch off, so I don't blame you @AnxiousAnnie86 .
But I guess now I would try to just think that ovulation will occur either today or tomorrow and go from that, then you've got a rough estimate of when you have, and hopefully you will see a change in temp from Ava.

My temp keeps taking a few days to come back down after AF arrives the last 2 cycles which is confusing. Got such a bad headache today I've got myself wrapped up on the sofa with a blanket feeling sorry for myself eating chocolate haha.

@AnxiousAnnie86 Sorry, I wanted to make it really clear I totally understood that stressing/obsessing is impossible not to do! If that wasn’t coming across I do apologise.
It’s not helpful right now that we have so little to do, not being able to have the usual treats and fun things to do that we would normally use to keep occupied, because of COVID. I know I’m thinking about it 24/7 because I don’t know what else to think about. Hugs 🥰
@Blossom428 aw, sorry you’re feeling rubbish. Chocolate is a good solution!
The temp thing could be related to your progesterone taking a while to fall, it’s directly linked to that.

@TheOrangeMonster oh no! It didn't come across you were saying not too think about it, I understand what you mean. I know that relaxing is probably the best thing I can possibly do as I got pregnant before immediately after contraption stopped last year, but I just can't seem to not think about it, in my head I'm like if I'm not getting pregnant when I'm really trying how can I possibly get pregnant when I'm not! Ughhhh vicious circle isn't it!

@Blossom428 I'm sorry you feel crap, I always feel totally shite on my second day of AF all I want to do is sleep!!!

I'm back in the office full time next week so hoping that will serve some routine and normality! Maybe that will encourage regular cycles! I'm counting ovulation as today, for past two hours I've had really bad sharp pains on right hand side, I can't normally feel ovulation, maybe it means it's a realllllly big healthy egg! Or two :) x

@AnxiousAnnie86 Twins! Haha.
Yeah, it is a vicious cycle. Your autocorrect made me laugh - “contraption” 🤣🤣
In all seriousness there is such a thing as “secondary infertility” and if you’ve been going over a year now, or over 6 months and you’re over 35, you can legitimately go to your GP and ask for help.
I’ve got this really weird feeling about this cycle. All the way through TTC up until now I’ve felt like it’s impossible for me to have got pregnant, I honestly believed I would get a bfn every time. This time though I feel like it’s possible, just possible, that I might get BfP. I barely want to acknowledge it because I know it’s probably wrong and AF will arrive bright and early tomorrow.

@TheOrangeMonster yeah they won't look into it yet, I've had my daughter, then we conceived in sept last year, periods didn't return till Jan and with long cycles I've only had 7 since then :( I'm 33 currently so will be getting seen and looking into it in January....

You 💯 can conceive! I can conceive we all can! It's just the length of time it's going to take us all, I just know we need to stay positive! It took my sister years and then boom she did! I know people who've gone through hell and back in fertility treatments then when they accepted it's not happening gotten pregnant! It's just a matter of time for us all! And I really really hope you it's your time this month my lovely xxxxx

@TheOrangeMonster also we always joke it'll take us forever then we will get twins! We have twins on both sides 🙈

@AnxiousAnnie86 bloody hell that really would be a baptism of fire 😱
I’ll do Aunt Flo a deal, she can naffing well leave me alone this month and go and put some poor 16 year old having a horrible fright out of her misery.

I just did a stupid thing - I was stacking something on the shelves in the bathroom and knocked everything all over the floor by accident including my box of TTC stuff, and something made me do a test - I was picking them all up and just had this urge.

OF COURSE it was negative. OF COURSE. Why did I even think it could be positive? 😡

@TheOrangeMonster don't lose faith! It's not first urine and you aren't sure when you ovulated! It could just be too soon!! X

How frustrating for you @AnxiousAnnie86 with the OPKS! I've only used CB digital so I get my peak day & stop testing, so sorry I can't help. If you still got peak this morning & can feel pain then I would take today as ovulation.
@Blossom428 sorry you feel shit, the first 2 days of AF are always the worse!
@Spinksy9 how's the spotting? Stay positive as it's brown & not red & you're not in pain, so that's good. I know it's worrying you & that's completely understandable
@TheOrangeMonster you're not out yet, so just pretend you never done the test!
Nothing to report my end, I'm only about 3/4DPO, just worried AF is going to come early again this month as feeling tender & had a few pains today🙄 it's too early for anything to happen so it's definitely not that unfortunately 🤦‍♀️x

@AnxiousAnnie86 @Chlo2701 I suppose if I really think about it I could be 11 or 12dpo today not 13, but it probably won’t be too much off that because my EWCM dried up on 14th and my cervix closed up. I don’t know what else I expected honestly, stupid to test early. BUT that said now I’m 99% sure this is just another failed cycle (that’ll be 21 now, thanks fate) I actually feel better. I can stop obsessing over symptoms that aren’t there now.
I know there’s still a chance, but honestly I’ve been round and round this so much I’m used to it.
Just told my husband what I did and that it was BfN and he said “obviously” in a monotone and wandered off into the kitchen. I think we’re both just losing faith. I might phone my GP and ask for IUI or IVF, it’s been long enough now surely!

@TheOrangeMonster have you ever seen anyone? X

@Chlo2701 I think today will be OV, I think tomorrow will be negative! So not far behind you!!!! Xxx

@AnxiousAnnie86 GP October last year, diagnosed PCOS. Investigations since confirm I do ovulate so was told to go away and keep trying. I think one particular nurse’s words were (at the time “you’re only 25, you have years yet”. I could have slapped her.

@AnxiousAnnie86 I’m ok thanks, waiting for the surge 😂🙈 still can’t quite figure my busy out. I feel like I must ovulate very late which is stressing me out a big if I’m honest

@WaitingForEgg oooh I know all about that!! What cycle day are you on now!

My opks gone negative this morn so think I must of ovulated when I felt those pains yest! How quickly does everyone's temp jump? Mines gone from 97.33 to 97.58 x

@AnxiousAnnie86 im cd23 and thought I had sussed out roughly when I ovulate to track. However my strips are getting lighter and I’ve not tested a smiley at all. I’m now wondering if I missed it and I actually ovulated earlier 🙈

No AF yet ladies