Tips for describing conception anxiety to partner

[Calmondeck]

Hi fellow TTC friends,
My partner and I have been TTC for several months now with no signs of success. I’m trying not to remain upbeat and not become fixated but finding it so challenging. When I try to describe feeling a bit low to my partner about it, he’s dismissive in a very optimistic way (eg “don’t be crazy, people try for years, we’re just getting started, focus on the great sex!”). I feel like it’s on my mind daily though - not assisted by surprise hormonal acne since coming off the pill and remembering to take vitamins each day. I have always wanted children, and perhaps in the back of my mind have always worried about conception (my mum took 10 years to fall pregnant with me). I haven’t downloaded any apps nor am I using ovulation sticks, because I feel like this will just make the whole thing too scientific. We’re just DTD daily. Has anyone had success describing their conception fears to their partner in a way the partner understands, and provides a bit more emotional support?

The fact that you still have post-pill acne shows that your hormones have yet to regulate themselves.

It takes around 9 months to a year for things to get back to normal...therefore it's not at all surprising that you haven't conceived yet.

However, the way I see it is this...if you can do anything to control your situation you should do it.

Nothing wrong with ovulation sticks. It's learning not to obsess that's the trick.

This sounds unsympathetic but I wouldn’t try to get him to understand. I would speak to other women ttc in here or friends.