To try this month or to try - opinons?

[Lola19]

Hi Ladies, this is my first post. Basically hubby and I have been TTC since March this year (for 5 months now) which I know isn’t a long time however I’m sure you all feel the same, I want to be pregnant like yesterday!!! Lol. So one of my best friends is getting married next year In April and I’m so excited for her and to fly over for it (from the UK). But this month my predicted ovulation days are going to fall on a weekend which is perfect as hubby works away most weekdays. However, I calculated my potential due date (does anyone else do that every month lol?!) if I fall pregnant this time I will be due the weekend of her wedding!! I’m so gutted and it’s just my luck that my fertile window falls on a weekend this time with husband working away. If I hold off it could be another 6 months before I fall pregnant. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’ve been telling myself I won’t try the month of August because I want to make my friends wedding but now the time is approaching I just feel I have to try or I might regret it!

Hi! My husband and I decided to try for baby number 2 - I started using ovulation sticks and we spent a couple of months DTD around ovulation time. The third month rolled round and I realised my due date would be around my sisters wedding 29th August 2020. So decided to not try that month. I didn't do ovulation sticks and we DTD once that month - on our wedding anniversary! And my period tracker indicated that I had already ovulated, which was in line with my dates etc.

Yep you guessed the punch line! Im due 1st September! As it happens, due to COVID-19 the wedding has been postponed until next year so I will be able to attend the wedding - but the baby will now be an actual guest!

Absolutely try! They could split up before then and you'd be right peeved off

I should say that my sister was incredible. She was nothing but supportive and on hearing our news she actually said 'Our wedding is one day - this is a new member of the family and so much more important!'. She actually prepared a little box to go on my chair for the ceremony! A handheld fan, some slippers, a bottle of water, heartburn tablets etc! She said that if I hadn't made it she was going to send the box to me to use at home!

My honest opinion - don't let the wedding influence your TTC journey. There will always be things that come up during your pregnancy. Look at me! Pregnant during lockdown hasn't been great but we couldn't have predicted this would happen back in December!

Your both so right! I hadn’t even thought that the wedding could be postponed (or even cancelled, I mean you never know) and if you had hadn’t fell pregnant when you did Niki you could’ve have ended up being pregnant anyway at her wedding thanks to Covid. Thanks for the advice

I would try, due date is just a date could be two weeks late or even 4 weeks early arriving 😊 If I had a friend that told me she was due on our wedding day It wouldn't upset me, I would video call her for the speeches if she couldn't make it

Thanks for your opinion! Your right, it could be super early and I might still make it or it might not even happen this time for us but at least I won’t be wondering “what if”

@Lola19 Totally get where you're coming from it's so hard. In your case I'd definitely try anyway.

I was due to get married in June, currently September (but who knows) and I wouldn't be mad! As @niki26 the wedding is one day!

I'm in a weird situation with my own wedding and 30th. We've planned a trip away (uk still) for my 30th next year and if I conceive in August I'd have to cancel. Also, the wedding is likely to postpone from September but I'm like well when do I rearrange for as I wouldn't want to be visibly pregnant for our wedding, nor just given birth but without being pregnant I can't really set a new date!

It's really stressing me out!

@beckyBP Oh man I totally see your point! Could you put off trying for a baby until nearer the end of the year so that way if you have to reschedule your wedding until next year you won’t be so far gone (there’s probably a good chance it won’t happen the first month or 2 of TTC anyway if your anything like me?) and then if you can reschedule your wedding sooner then bonus your won’t be preg?? But also you might just have to be pregnant for your birthday! I mean your only 29 you still have plenty of time?

It’s so so hard when you’ve got plans for the following year! As much as I try my best to control it and plan ahead, my friends that have already conceived tell me you just can’t plan ahead And it’s totally unpredictable so you might as well just go for it and take the situation as it comes!

@Lola19 It's so difficult isn't it. Because the wedding was meant to be in June we'd already decided to TTC straight after so last month was our first month. I just don't want to put my life and starting a family on hold for 'one day'

I'd actually be happy to be pregnant on my 30th just not 9 months 😂😂

My fiancé's opinion is rearrange the wedding for spring and if we do catch soon re arrange it again (that would be the 4th time 😑)

I think, if your like me, it's hard to not have control over when you'll conceive but if I really think about it that's the most important thing so it's what I want to put before anything else!

Sorry.. massive offload.. 🙈

@Lola19 sorry just re read the last part of your message. You're so right. Just have to try and go with it and make whatever situation happens work!

Well I totally understand because I just got married in October 2019 so I wanted to wait until after to start TTC. So I feel your pain that your plans have been messed up!
And if TTC is what’s most important to you then I’d just go for it and I’d probably rearrange your wedding for next year sometime if it gets cancelled this September! But yeah you really can’t plan unfortunately, we just need to let Mother Nature take it’s course!

@Lola19 you're right! If only it was as easy as we thought growing up hey! 🙈

I totally get the dilemma. But I would TTC... if it is your first it is more than likely you will be late, and your body has more work to do to get them out! Or as others say there’s always potential for baby to arrive early.

Due date is an approximation, and The doctor May not agree with your date, as they often Change it in relation to the size and progress of the baby.

Also make sure you are counting 40 weeks from the date of your last period. (Confusingly The weeks you’re body is preparing for implantation are counted in the ‘9 months’)

Also if egg and sperm end up in the same place and the same time - that is you time it right- you still only have a 30% chance of getting pregnant. Gotta take every chance you can get, esp if hubby is not always around. also totally empathise with wanting to be pregnant yesterday! We are TTC for #2 and I’ve gone from looking at pregnant women thinking, thank god that’s not me to oh god I wish it was me! And also turning into mush when I see any babies! Each month seems way to long to wait!

@beckyBP So we were meant to get married in June also! We have re arranged for June 21 and this is my 4th and final month of TTC, then we are stopping until April next year. I have my joint hen and 30th in April, but Ive told my sister not to book it till I know Im out. I really want a baby, but I also really want to enjoy my wedding. I can easily not drink and be a few weeks preggers but didnt want to be big. If I convieve this cycle, and baby is born on due date I will have 8 weeks to recover.
Thats what Ive decided 😊 and Im acctually Ok with it. Tried my dress on last weekend and it just got me all excited again. I think with corona its been so hard to think positively about our wedding day.

Hey @blodyn91 wow we are literally like almost the same person 😂

I totally get you. I hate that my wedding has become a hassle and just something I'm not interested in it's so sad!

You've got that plan nailed! Sounds good. I think if we rearrange I'd try and do it for say April and if I do get pregnant soon push it back to August or maybe wait until 2022.

I don't want to show in my dress but also it's super fitted so I think I need some deficient recovery time.

I need to get my head together! 🙈