Friends pregnancy hitting me hard

[mrsgtobe97]

I've now had two chemicals and no luck, but my friend has found out today she's pregnant after a "one hit wonder" on her predicted ovulation day.

Feeling really down and jealous at her pregnancy, her circumstances are really not great as has only been with the guy for a couple months, not planned and still living at home etc. Regardless of that I Just can't shake a really upset feeling like it should be me :( why can it happen immediately for her but not me. Ugh I'm being stupid!!

Didn’t want to read and run. I had a similar thing happen - a good friend told me her due date was around the time of my pregnancy that ended in MC. I was so upset I cried all day. It is totally ok to be sad and you are not being stupid. TTC can be such a difficult and lonely journey at times. I hope you are ok x

Hey hope you’re ok. If it helps, I’m in the same boat (ish)
Friend had a baby a couple of weeks ago after getting pregnant due to antibiotics on the pill. She was adamant she never wanted children so everyone was really happy surprised and I felt really happy for them but really jealous too 🙁

Baby is here and adorable but the last two weeks have hit me hard, I’m not a jealous person by nature but I do feel envious. I have another friend due around now who got pregnant on a one night unprotected slip up (their words) and again, got that pang of envy that again, it just seemed so easy.

I hate feeling this way as normally I’m a very ‘happy for other people’ person but at the same time trying to accept that I will be sad and jealous.

Hugs to you x

@Oilyoilyoilgob

Hey hope you’re ok. If it helps, I’m in the same boat (ish) Friend had a baby a couple of weeks ago after getting pregnant due to antibiotics on the pill. She was adamant she never wanted children so everyone was really happy surprised and I felt really happy for them but really jealous too 🙁

Baby is here and adorable but the last two weeks have hit me hard, I’m not a jealous person by nature but I do feel envious. I have another friend due around now who got pregnant on a one night unprotected slip up (their words) and again, got that pang of envy that again, it just seemed so easy.

I hate feeling this way as normally I’m a very ‘happy for other people’ person but at the same time trying to accept that I will be sad and jealous.

Hugs to you x

Yeah completely understand how you feel. Think it hits harder when you do everything to try conceive and they don't even want a baby and fall pregnant, just think how is that fair! Ugh time is a healer but it's really hard her talking about baby things around me x

@Vividdreamer88

Didn’t want to read and run. I had a similar thing happen - a good friend told me her due date was around the time of my pregnancy that ended in MC. I was so upset I cried all day. It is totally ok to be sad and you are not being stupid. TTC can be such a difficult and lonely journey at times. I hope you are ok x

Thank you, I will be okay just a lot to take in anyway as she is my best friend and we both never expected this so think it's knocked me for 6! X

You might take a little longer, OP, but odds are your quality of life will be better for the baby having been planned with you in a more settled position. You might be jealous of the pregnancy, but would you swap positions with her?

@FourPlasticRings

You might take a little longer, OP, but odds are your quality of life will be better for the baby having been planned with you in a more settled position. You might be jealous of the pregnancy, but would you swap positions with her?

Yeah this is a good point my partner pointed out too, it's definitely more the baby I'm jealous of not her situation as it would be an awful one to be in and it will get very messy soon as the guy won't stick around. Doesn't help matters she is due end of March and will be my bridesmaid at my wedding start of February also 🙈 x