Any tips to help when struggling to conceive

[strugglingtocope111]

Hi everyone
NC as I don't want it linked to previous posts, and I have friends who know my username on here.
We have been TTC baby #2 for 6 months, which in the grand scheme of things is not a long time, and I know that. But this month more than any, I am really struggling to come to terms with it and am finding myself in a bit of a depression over it. It's all I can think about and it's taking over my entire life. We have a beautiful baby boy who's 15 months old, and we conceived him the first month of trying, so although at the time I thought I knew how lucky we were, I think I really underestimated how I'd feel if it didn't happen so easily the next time. Increasingly I'm finding myself almost struggling to get out of bed in the morning and just cry about it constantly, it's really irrational but I don't know how to dig myself out of it. I've convinced myself that it's just never going to happen and find myself constantly googling secondary infertility. When I write it down, I know it's completely irrational and lots and lots of couples take a while to conceive, but in my head I think "well I know for a fact we DTD when I ovulated, so WHY am I still not pregnant?"
I'm only 5DPO today but I'm genuinely not even bothered about thinking when my period is due, or knowing when I'd be late on my next cycle as in my head I just know I'm not pregnant anyway so what does it matter. Just have to wait for my next ovulation.
I need some words of wisdom, or really just a virtual slap around the face and a reminder that I need to get myself out of this state and try to be positive.
Please guys, can you help

We’ve just started ttc for no 2 as well and my LO is 13 months :) 6 months does feel very long ttc but it often takes a lot longer than that and it’s normal. If you are tracking with an app and have regular cycles I would try just to have sex a couple of times before ovulation (and day of if possible) and it should happen! You can start using opks and temping if you want to do more...however I only used these last time as my cycles are so irregular so it’s much harder to track when I was going to ovulate! Try not to think about it too much and good luck!

Thanks @stellarfox it looks like you're trying at the same sort of time scale as us then. All of a sudden my little baby didn't seem like a baby anymore and I felt terrified that if I left it much longer then the gap between them would be too big, and I think as soon as you feel "ready" to have another baby, you want it now and don't want to wait ages to conceive. Sadly, there's not a lot you can really do other than as you've suggested. I've used OPKs since we started and have tracked my temp for years (that's how we conceived DS) so from that perspective I'm pretty confident that I know when I ovulate. Last month I had a bizarre 60 day cycle which totally threw me off and it's made me worried that somethings wrong.
Did you conceive your LO quickly or did it take you a little while? Im always curious to hear other people's stories
Best of luck to you and I hope your journey TTC is as smooth as it can be!

I’m also 6 months into TTC but for baby #1. Up until now I’ve been of the mindset of, it’ll happen when it happens, but now time is moving on I know I need to plan better. I had my implant out on 9th January and had my first AF on 23rd April giving me a 105 day cycle. My next cycle was 35 days and the last one was 45 days. I have absolutely no idea when I ovulate so I’m going to start using opk’s this month but I already have this fear that it’s not going to happen without help.
I’d be really keen to hear any suggestions from people as to what I can do to help things along

It took us 1 year the first time, I think because my cycles were so irregular 40-70 days! So I think my expectations are lower than yours but I’m sure I’d feel the same as you if we’d conceived very quickly the first time. I don’t know if it was the pill or PCOS but I’ve only had one full cycle so far and it was 36 days so I’m not sure if it will be irregular again or not. Definitely not going to be going on the pill again though, that’s for sure! I hope your cycle after this one is back to normal if you’re normally regular. If it does keep being irregular have a look into PCOS in case it is that as there are things you can do to help!