Keep crying, miscarriage at 5 weeks, still no period

[ZaraH1]

Hi all,

Hope you're well.

We started trying for out second this year and in May 2020 I got a BFP. On My 15th I started spotting and by the 16th I saw red blood and knew I was miscarrying - I was about 5 weeks along.

I rang my doctor and they said it should pass naturally but they send me for an early scan on the 22nd of May - by then the bleeding had stopped. The scan confirmed everything had passed naturally, my lining was thin since bleeding had stopped and uterus looked healthy. I was told I could start trying again as soon as I wanted.

We thought we would take it easy this month and officially try after my next period. That however is yet to come, it is now 9th July, 7-8 weeks have gone by and there's no sign of period. I took a pregnancy test today just in-case but its negative.

My periods were regular before, every 29 days and I had no hormonal imbalances. I was hopeful my period would be here after 6 weeks but now I keep crying as time passes; my daughter is 5 now and I just wanted to give her a sibling but seems like my body doesn't want that to happens.

I'm trying to keep an eye on my bodily changes and the only significant things are cervical mucus at the moment is yellow tinged, wet/creamy (TMI sorry) and more than normal and I have a numb ache in my left arms sometimes sharp in the shoulder (this has been happening since before miscarriage but still here and they didn't mention ecotpic, they said everything down there looked fine during scan).

Just want some advice, sorry for this being so long...

Hi 👋🏻 @ZaraH1 I don’t know how much bleeding you had in the end, was it a lot with quite a few clots, like a normal period or very little bleeding? It sounds like the pregnancy has not been passed completely and the shoulder pain does sound concerning as you are correct in saying it’s a symptom of ectopic. If possible I would get referred back for a further scan to check your fallopian tubes. It may be as simple as hormones settling back into a rhythm again. This can take longer than you expect. When I had a MMC and D&C it took 6 weeks +

I’m not sure why you are wanting a period before you start trying ?
Being stressed can stop your periods so , I know it’s easy for me to say, you need to relax and just start trying.
I had a really stressful time with work when trying to conceive with my first. I hadn’t had a period for 9 months so went to the GP for referral. Within a week of going to the GP I had a positive pregnancy test so could cancel the referral.

Thank you for responding both.

I bled for around 6 days, it was like a period slightly heavier and I'd say the blood was a lot more bright red than my usual period which is more dark red. At the early scan they couldnt see any sign of ectopic and they asked me to take a pregnancy test which came back negative, could I still be suffering ectopic?

I was really upset about the miscarriage and thought we'd take a break on 'trying' we have still had unprotected sex but because I don't know where I am in my cycle I haven't been timing/tracking anything.

I saw some fertile cervical mucus 2 weeks after miscarriage bleeding stopped and we did have sex around then but if I got pregnant from that I would have known by now and I havent seen any more fertile cervical mucus since then.

So the reason I'm waiting for my period is o guess peace of mind and 2 so I know where I am in my cycle.

I have a demanding job I guess but my cycle was regular before even with my job being quite consuming.

Hi @ZaraH1 if your period was fairly heavy and then stopped of its own accord it does suggest you’ve managed to pass the pregnancy. As you’ve miscarried naturally it may just be that your hormones are settling. There’s no hard or fast rule with that. It can take some time or come as normal after 4 weeks. For me after a complete D&C (I had two for two separate MMC) it was a little over 6 weeks. Following that period though I fell pregnant again straight away both times with DD1 and subsequently DD2 so you could be quite fertile right now. It might be that you ovulated within the last 2 weeks and got pregnant but not a long enough time has passed for a +ev pregnancy test. If you’re otherwise well and don’t have any symptoms of infection then leave it a further 2 weeks and test again.