What would you do?

[HowFastIsTooFast]

I think I'm being a bit silly but can't get this out of my head! We're ttc in a casual way at the moment (I'm not monitoring anything or timing dtd, we're just not using contraception).

One of my best friends is getting married abroad in late July next year and I'm gutted at the thought of missing it.

I figure if we had a baby already from about 2 months old we could still make it, even if we just flew in and out for 2 or 3 nights instead of the 2 week holiday we'd otherwise turn it into, or if I was up to about 7 months pregnant we could obviously still go, assuming a non-complex pregnancy.

I don't know if we should use protection again for a few months September to New Year (if I'm not pregnant by then) or if that's being silly for the sake of one day; albeit an important one? We're not getting any younger...

I understand your thought process because I’m in a similar situation, I’m bridesmaid for one of my best friends in March this year.. I was petrified at the thought of missing it and actually got pregnant last month and would’ve been due 10 days before her wedding.. sadly I had an early misscarriage but it’s made me realise that for us it’s priority number one. If I conceive this month then I’ll be due about 2 weeks after her wedding so hopefully I’d be there.. but it’s a risk! That said she’d be really upset if she knew I was planning my life around her big day.. (HER big day remember.. not yours!) and I think this year has shown us that anything can happen.. if the same happens next year and you’ve waited and your friends wedding gets postponed would you wait another 6 months? That’s what I’d be asking myself x

Thanks @littlebee1990. That's a good point about the potential for it being delayed again.

Obviously we knew about the wedding when we started ttc and had said that what will be will be, we'll plan as if we're going for now and see what happens, but I saw her last night and she was showing my pictures of the venue etc and I'm so excited for her!

Worst case scenario and we couldn't go then hopefully our mutual friends would be able to FaceTime me from time to time during the day. It wouldn't be the first FaceTime wedding after all!

Totally your decision and there’s no right or wrong answer.. for me the fear of potentially loosing someone close (say my Gran died and never got to meet her great grandchild but had I started 2 months earlier she would’ve etc) and if I’d waited for a wedding to happen and delayed TTC won over guaranteeing being at a wedding that we have no idea will or won’t happen .. hope that makes sense!?

I think just live and get on with it. You never what tomorrow brings. Is a baby more important than your friends wedding? If yes then don’t fret over it. If no, then take some precautions.