Who’s the dad

[Lauralouise2]

I know I’m going to sound daft and it’s probably very obvious who the father is but my mind is just running over time and would just like reassurance..

Me and my partner broke up in November and I slept with someone else on the 18th of that month.. then on 21st November me and my partner got back together.. We slept together on the 9th, 11th and 16th Feb.. My due date is the 4th November!

Is it definitely my partners baby? Please no judging but just needs some reassurance. Thanks

It will be your partner's. If your due date is 4th November and you are pregnant for 40 weeks (around 9 months) you would not have a baby almost 3 months late. For it to be conceived anytime in November you would have to be pregnant for a year.

Stop panicking, as long as in Feb you were sleeping with only your partner then it is your partners.

Relax

Thankyou for you reply I’ve honestly not stopped thinking about it, it’s making me feel so crap towards my pregnancy and I can’t seem to enjoy it because I’m constantly worrying, thankyou for the reassurance x

I understand, does your partner know about the person back in November? I am guessing not and that is actually where your panic lies. I think really you know that the baby cannot have been conceived in November and actually it is the secret that is making you panic.
If you 2 had split up then it is none of your DPs business. You was not unfaithful so should not feel like you are harbouring a secret.

Please try to enjoy your pregnancy. I hope the issues which made you and your partner split are resolved fully and you continue to both work hard at your relationship to fix it. Having a baby is a strain on relationship, but it can have so many positives too.

Good luck with your future OP. Relax and congratulations!

You’re lovely idroppedthescrew

I agree with all of the above OP. It has to be your partner’s baby!

@therealkittyfane Thank you, that is very sweet of you to say.
I just believe relationships can be so hard and sometimes people just need a little kindness to settle their minds. The OP did nothing wrong, she clearly has some guilt lying in her so she has panicked. There is no guilt that needs to be there.
Many people will tell her she should be open with her partner. But if they had split up, she didn't know they were going to get back together...unless she has a crystal ball. OP if you do have a crystal ball please tell me the Lotto numbers.

I had a baby in August last year. I found out on 30th November the year before. We DTD a few times that month, so it's definitely not the guy you slept with in November. Otherwise you would have had a due date in August x

Thankyou for all your reply’s and kind words, no he does not know I think your right it’s just the guilt but I can’t help but think what If it’s not he’s, I only slept with the one guy when we broke up in November then we got back together beginning of December and been fine ever since, I’m currently 22weeks and 1 day today my mind just won’t shut down and can’t stop thinking what if it’s not ☹️☹️☹️

To put it clearly to you, in the most kindest way I can, and I type this with a comforting smile on my face. Unless you are dumbo you cannot be pregnant for a year! If you are 22 weeks pregnant then that means the sperm from the other guy must have been live in you for 10 ish weeks. Sperm is very volatile and is just not that great.
It is your partners.
How is your pregnancy going besides your anxiousness

I’d rather you be straight with me and actually tell me I’m been dumb 🤣 yeah it’s going well thankyou I’ve had quite a bad year this year I already have 2 boys now having a girl but my youngest boy who’s 2 got diagnosed with leukaemia in January so been quite stressful but I’m been strong for him xx

No I am not saying you are being dumb, lol. Elephants are pregnant for a year so thats why I said dumbo. Lmao.

Aww bless him! That must be so hard for you. How is he doing? Xx

I was about to say unless you are an elephant it’s your partners... someone beat me to it!

Deffo your partner's baby!

Oh right see I’m even more dumb🤣🤣 he’s responding very well to he’s treatment just regular weekly trips back and forth from the hospital xx

It's your partner's baby, stop fretting about that! Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I am so sorry about your little boy's diagnosis; it's encouraging that he is responding to treatment.

No not dumb lol!
I am glad your son is responding to treatment.

Thankyou, just the constant overthinking and worrying xx