2nd miscarriage. Wtf is wrong with me?

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Well I managed to stay pregnant for 7 days. How dare I let myself hope that I’d have an actual baby. I cleverly got pregnant at the same time as my sister in law! She’ll be 7 weeks tomorrow, I’d be 5. I was knitting us matching hats for our babies. Now she’ll be a reminder of where I should be. The same happened with my last miscarriage. I got pregnant within a week of my friend. That killed me seeing her bump grow when it should have been me.

What the fuck is wrong with me? Why can’t I have a baby? I’m 40. What should I do? Now go straight to IVF?

I'm in the same boat and asking the same questions. Let me know if you figure it out....

DH is now saying he doesn't want to go down the IVF route....I think he just doesn't want to pay because he doesn't know anyone else who has had to.

This is really sad, I'm just so sorry OP 💐

I am 40 and recently had a miscarriage. I had tests done and it was because the baby had two copies of chromosome 13 (patau’s syndrome). The risks of an egg having chromosome problems are much higher at my age.

If you do have ivf you can do extra and have the chromosomes tested to ensure that only “good@ eggs go back or use donor eggs.

Otherwise I think one needs to be prepared for it to happen again sadly and keep going for as long as you can. Lots of 40 year old women and older do have babies but lots have to cope with multiple miscarriages which is so fucking hard and sad. I am pregnant again and faced with the fact that I have low hcg levels - having a scan on Friday to see what that means. It’s so hard.

So I don’t think at all this means it will never happen for you - like I believe for myself I can happen - it’s just a question of what you are able to go through before it becoming too painful overall xx