Everyone is pregnant but me

[bibs124]

Seems like everyone I know is pregnant or just had a baby.. I've been TTC for 7 months now which I know in the TTC world isn't really that long but I can't help but feel like there might be a problem with me as I have an under active thyroid I'm worried it's going to be harder for me. It hasn't really affected me until this month but seeing pregnant people, people with children etc and all I can think is why isn't that me? Any tips on how to deal with this? The only thing I find helps is telling myself I don't know what they went through to get pregnant but then when you hear of people who got pregnant by accident in less than ideal circumstances it feels very unfair.

Hi @bibs124! I know exactly what you mean! The frustration and the sadness when another cycle goes by and yes, I know what you mean about everyone else suddenly seeming pregnant. It’s very hard. I’ve been TTC for 2 years and have pretty much gone through every emotion, from denial to anger to heartbreak and even jealousy!

The only bit of advice I really have is to remember that everyone has their own journey and that your time will come :) Whilst you may not be where you want right now, take time to think about the things that you do have and focus on those :) You will get your BFP, you just have to wait a bit more, and with each day that passes, you’re closer to it (I don’t know if that helps you at all, but that’s what I tell myself)

Sending you lots of baby dust and wishing for your BFP very very soon! Xx

Hiya,
I feel the same. I'm a few months in, I had lots of medical issues beforehand preventing me from being able to get pregnant too so it feels like it's been much longer. It does feel like everyone is pregnant at the moment, Im seeing multiple scans on social media every week at the moment. Especially when your told how quick it happened or it was an accident I find it really hard. Hope to also hear some answers to this, I hope you get your bfp soon

@AmesK @Lovebug06 thank you both for your messages. I'm considering coming off social media as I can't help but feel sad when I see others posting pregnancy announcements and my feed is plastered with them at the moment. Praying you both get your BFP soon. I never thought TTC would be this difficult

@bibs124 I feel your pain! I did the same. It was getting too much for me but I’m finding it easier to deal with now that I’ve removed that aspect of it. I feel terrible for doing this though but TTC was just making me so miserable!

I really hope you get your BFP very soon xx

I have a few friends and family pregnant also, I'm truly happy for them but it's so hard and I just can't feel the excitement and want to be as involved as I usually would and I feel awful for it. Hopefully it'll be our turn soon though!

I feel you 💐 I know it's not fair, my husband and I have been trying for a relatively short amount of time in the TTC world as well but feels like forever doesn't it? We'll get there one way or another. My husband is struggling with us having not conceived yet, more so than me I would say. I usually feel really sad when AF arrives and then I pick myself up and think "we'll try again this month, we'll do it more this month" but if we're still in this position in a few months, I can tell my enthusiasm will start to wain! Keep plodding on, you're not alone 💐

I understand all of these emotions.... it's so hard! I've been TTC for a 13 months. I'd usually feel sad when I started my period but would think 'oh well try again' on the 12 month mark i was very late.... over a week late. My partner got very excited convinced himself it was a cheap test and we needed a clear blue. He ordered us some from amazon. The next day Mother Nature reared her ugly head!! The disappointment on my partners face was just too much to handle. When I notified my app it said 'you've been trying to conceive for 12 months we advise you speak to your health care provider'. Well that just tipped me over the edge, I cried on and off for a few days and anything set me off! A pampers advert, mums with prams, people announcing pregnancies. Just think there is so many women out there that go through this more than you think! I personally don't think it's talked about enough, it's almost a taboo to say 'I'm trying but it's taking longer than I thought'.

@Lovebug06 I’m exactly the same.. it sounds horrible but I’m sick of being told people are pregnant as it just makes me hate my body even more for not being pregnant

@EmmaA91 sorry you are going through the same it’s horrible isn’t it, I spend most of the time convincing myself I’m infertile! The TTC anxiety is horrible. We will get there though, it just may take us longer for whatever reason

@Georgie31 Oh I’m sorry, I wish none of us had to go through this. It seems like such a basic human right to be able to have a child have you spoken to the doctor? I’m counting down the months until that’s me and I’m dreading it. No idea what to expect! I completely agree re it being taboo.. people only talk about how quick they've conceived never how long it's taken..

Fingers crossed we all get our BFP soon

Hi op, abit off topic but I would advise you to seek thyroid treatment to help your chances. I ttc for 4 years until started on thyroxine for under active thyroid & then got pregnant afew months later 🙂

I'm right there with you about thinking I'm infertile! Just keep remembering you've not been trying that long in the TTC world as you said, that always brings my anxiety about it down otherwise I start getting myself het up. You're not alone and I've got everything crossed for us. How does your OH feel about it all? ❤️

@howsoonisnow85 @howsoonisnow85 I am on thyroxine and have been for years now! I last had blood test in Sept last year and apparently all in range.. will have another test soon when I’m not as scared to go to the doctors!

@EmmaA91 me too, I have done lots of research and most couples conceive within a year, I just hope that is me but I just feel like it won’t be, I don’t even know why I have such a feeling.. how long have you been TTC? I don’t think my partner is too concerned, he’s very laid back! Doesn’t worry about much.. what about you?

Hi @bibs124 I just wanted to comment because I read the title of your thread and that's exactly how
I feel right now... I've had to keep closing social media apps for seeing pictures of pregnant friends!

Been trying for 9 months, had 2 chemicals, and recently one of my closest friends announced her pregnancy. I could have cried with happiness for her but also the sick feeling in the pit of my stomach was for myself. It's so difficult isn't it.

Just wanted to let you know you're not alone in how you feel. X

I hear you, after my miscarriage it's all i saw, babies everywhere. Then conceived my first but took a year with my second which was excruciating.

You need to try and do all the things you can't when pregnant? Sushi, alcohol etc etc and go to places that you wouldn't (hard right now tho I guess) I found that helped, like" in your face anyway coz I can eat sushi and they can't kind of thing" Also because it will surprise you when you least expect it. This next bit will sound harsh and I really don't mean it to, you also need to prepare for this taking a lot longer, as you say 7 months isn't actually long so you may need to adjust your expectations to not crack up. I'm only saying that as someone who knows. Good luck xx

It is soul destroying because you are desperate to finally get pregnant but also feel like a bad friend/family member/person when you hear the latest pregnancy announcement. I see that you’re trying to stay evenhanded about it, which is not easy at all. You need to be 2 years actively trying, as you probably know, before you’re classified as having a problem (assuming no other medical issues than the thyroid one and that you are under 35 years of age). I mean that as encouragement, as someone who experienced a powerfully intense and challenging journey to become a mother. Good luck op!

@lamby12 I’m the same, I’ve started asking Instagram to hide posts of pregnancy announcements etc but they still keep coming up.. think I will have to delete the app which is a shame as I do like aspects of social media but can’t stop myself asking why it’s not me every time I see one which isn’t healthy..

@Wecandothis99 yeah that’s a good idea. I’m trying to set myself goals that don’t include having a baby and think I’m just going to try and focus on getting the house finished and move onto our next project! I don’t really like alcohol or sushi unfortunately lol!

@SetSail yeah it definitely is soul destroying.. I’m only 26 and yeah only issue is my thyroid and I could do with losing a few stone which I’m focusing on to increase my chances.. can’t bare the thought of having to wait another 18 months plus 9 months of pregnancy but it’s out of my control so think I just need to find other things to focus on.. and you never know it might happen before then anyway!

@bibs124 I know, it's crap. I'm 8 cycles in. Under 35 you need to be actively ttc for 12 months for referral, not 2 years. Over 35 it's 6 months. I'm 35 this year and it's becoming a strain on my mental health tbh. I'm sure we'll get there. Up to 2 years is still considered normal for ttc.

@bibs124
So this is how I felt.
TTC for 6 months and everyone else was announcing their pregnancies and I was sat here getting annoyed. Trying different vitamins, taking my temps, tracking my ovulation and symptoms. This month I thought screw it. Stopped looking at my app, ate and drank what I wanted and today I got my BFP.
Honestly, as much as it's annoying for people to say "once you stop trying" but actually it's worked for us! Take a breath and a step back. It will happen x

When you're thinking about pregnancy you do see pregnant women everywhere. It's really weird. I never notice them usually.

Massive congrats @Spinksy9 amazing news on your BFP

Was your BFP your first test this cycle as well??
X

@lamby12 my first test was yesterday where I got a VVVVF line on a freedom test (9dpo -25mul sensitivity)
Took a FRER at 4.30am this morning (10dpo) and got that line.
Thank you (:

@CurbsideProphet I feel you! It’s definitely affecting my mental health too, I’m sure the anxiety isn’t helping us whatsoever but it’s so difficult isn’t it! So silly as we know it’s normal to take a while but at the same time convince ourselves there is something wrong with us! Think because when you are younger you are always told if you have sex once you will get pregnant.. which obviously isn’t the case whatsoever!

@Spinksy9 thank you for your message and congratulations on your BFP! I’m going to do ovulation tests this month so I know at least I am ovulating (one less thing to worry about) and then try as best as I can to forget about it..

@FourPlasticRings you’re probably right.. it’s the same with anything isn’t it! But just seems to be everyone all announcing pregnancy right now!