11 months Ttc doing everything right but nothing

[Missgoldilocks]

Hi all...
I guess I'm posting this for some reassurance and just to let it out! I took out my copper coil in April last year in hope I would just fall without thinking about it, it never happened so we started properly trying in August last year. I have a son who is 9 and I'm 28. My cycles are bang on every month and I ovulate every month cd15! We have dtd every day during fertile week and 3 days (2 days before ovulation, 1 day and then day of ovulation) every single month. Oh has had his sperm checked and all is well, I've had bloods and scan and all is well. The only thing I can think of is maybe my tubes, or scar tissue. I can't be seen till january due to covid.

I just have no hope anymore, I know some people have tried longer I KNOW but it doesn't make it any easier. I am so sad and I can't stop thinking about it, I'm the healthiest I've ever been and now I'm struggling to get pregnant I just can't get my head around it. I'd love to hear from ladies who have had no issues and fell at some point even if it did take a while.

Everyone keeps telling me to relax and to think positive but I was relaxed and thinking positive in the beginning! I just can't really think like that anymore! It's heart breaking and I think today I've just woken up so sad because I had a dream I got a bfp and then I realised it was a dream 😣

I just constantly think, if I have timed it correctly for all this time then what's the bloody issue? Also I only ever get pain in my right ovary during ovulation and after ovulation, does anyone else only get pain on one side?

Thanks for listening ❤️ would love to hear your stories.

Heyyyy girl, gosh it sounds like you're really going through the mill. Unfortunately I don't have a success story to share with you - I fell pregnant the first time after 4 months of trying, and then we lost her at the end of January at 24 weeks. Been trying ever since then but no luck.

So really I think what I'm saying is please don't feel alone in all this. It's hard and frustrating when your body isn't doing what it's literally designed to do, but keep talking and doing your best to stay positive. I'll keep my fingers crossed that you get your BFP soon, and hopefully both of us will get the family we're dreaming of!

xx

@emiliet123 oh my I'm so sorry to hear of your loss 😣❤️🤗 that's just awful xx it is hard and frustrating and I guess it doesn't really help that my partner doesn't want to hear about me being sad so it's like we'll who do I talk to then? I'm. Just so frustrated, I'm excited during fertile week and I'm only 3dpo now but already I'm just like it's not going to happen. Keeping hope just makes it worse when af comes?
I really hope you get your bfp soon too!!! How long have you been trying since you lost her? Praying for your rainbow baby xxx

I can only imagine how frustrating 11 months or a year can feel like without getting a bfp.

Only been trying since december after a MC and got so desperate i resorted to private fertility clinic.

Could you have something done to look at your uterus and tubes privately?
When you say blood were good.. have you had day21 progesterone checked? Thyroid? Etc?
I am sure you already know all the ins and out of the ttc business so not gonna bore you with tips 😁
Also mainly because these are so dependent on people...

hey, i know it seems like a long time but they state even couples with no fertility issues can take 12 months to conceive! it took me 5 years for us to finally get pregnant - its a hard slog! x

Good luck op. It took us a while first time around too. It's so frustrating waiting each month. You just need to get lucky once though.... keeping fingers crossed for you x

@SunnySideUp2020 hey! Yes I've had the 21 day bloods thyroid etc checked everything is good! I had a scan also and my ovaries and everything looked good...
I don't know, since I've been pregnant before I know I can but I am worried about scarring. I'm thinking of the private route but it's so expensive, I have made the decision though that if it doesn't happen in 2 months I'll grit and bare it just to find out if there is an issue, at least then I will have some kind of peace of mind that it's just a waiting game. How are your investigations going? X

@rocknrosie oh my! I'm so glad you managed it! It took me 4 years with my son but I was never trying at the time so I never though about it but I also wasn't on contraception in a long term relationship. So even though I know it can take that long, when you're actually trying it's all consuming. Plus, I don't want to wait 4 years again 😭

@adag thank you so much x

We started trying in September 2017 and I got pregnant on cycle 4 but lost the baby early on. Then I didn't conceive again until Jan 2019 but I'm happy to say ds is now almost 8 months! Lost track of how many cycles it was altogether but I'm sure it was 20 something! I really hope it works out for you x

@MrFlibblesEyes wow! Thank you for sharing and congratulations x