Age gaps.

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Hi! So me and my husband have decided to try for our third. My eldest is 5 and youngest just 2. I don't know wether to start trying now? any advice on 2.5 age gap? My other was 3.5 and I think it's just a touch too much but pro is I would enjoy time with new baby with toddler in nursery. Hope this makes sense! Tia x

My eldest is 4.5 and youngest is 3 in a few weeks. I’d have preferred a 2 or 2.5 year gap between 2 and 3 if I’m honest but I had to hold off for career reasons (which don’t actually matter now with all this going on!!). I wanted smallish gaps between my children so they’d grow up together. I have big age gaps with my siblings (brother 5 years old, sister 10 years younger despite all having the same parents) and although we all got on as children we didn’t really grow up together. We are all close as adults and it’s great but I wanted mine close because of that. I think any age gap has pros and cons though, I guess a lot comes down to circumstances and money for most though.

I’d go for it if I was you, by 2.5 they are a little bit more independent, potentially potty trained and no need for a pram unless you are going really far.

I started trying for number 3 in March/April and got pregnant right away but didn’t get past 7 weeks. I got pregnant first time all 3 times and went into number 3 a little cocky if I’m honest, I wasn’t surprised it’d happened right away again but then it didn’t pan out. My children would have been 5 exactly and 3.5 by the time it arrived and I was just about ok with the gaps, now I’m wondering how long it’s going to actually take. So what I’m trying to say is maybe don’t wait around even if the first 2 were easy, you could end up with a bigger gap anyway so maybe better to start sooner. I’m kind of starting to feel that way and we only decided to go for it end of March.

@DontStandSoClose thank you for replying. Yes I think I'm quite cocky too as it happened quite quickly with my first two. There is big age gaps between me and my siblings too and we are not close at all so I didn't want the same for my children. Thank you! I'm just finishing my period so maybe we'll start trying this month and see what happens! Xx