Hello,
This is my first post and I guess I’d just welcome any opinions / advice from anyone who went for a third. Sorry for the long post!
I have a boy (7) and girl (4) and 39 so time getting on a bit.
Husband would love a third, I’m sitting on the fence and one day feel I’m considering it and the next too scared to go ahead. It’s a bit like the elephant in the room.
I had never considered a third until.......2 years ago I found out I was pregnant with baby number 3 and it was a massive shock. I feel awful to say I felt very negative at the time. I felt I was just about coping with a 2 and 5 year old and as it was unplanned I just wasn’t in the right place mentally. My husband was so happy, I was honest with him how I felt and he reassured me. We told our parents straight away whilst on holiday with them and then I started to get my head into it, feel more positive, brought vitamins and everyone spoke about it all day. The next morning I had a miscarriage at 7wks and had to tell everyone. First time it had happened to me. At the time I felt guilty for having negative thoughts like I had caused it but I’ve tried to shake that off. The hospital experience after was horrendous!
So from that ‘taster’ of a third my husbands more sure he wants one and me more confused! I do love being a mum, the baby days, toddler time’s etc. Nothing I love more. Both kids will be in school (hopefully) by the time baby arrives so it will be easier. Husband works a lot so a lot is left to me but he is helpful. Financially we are ok, I can stay at home. I’m just wondering if I’m tired of being tired all the time and it’s time to move on from the baby days? Kids pretty demanding and spend most nights bed hopping with them so still lacking sleep! Is this some sort of panicky last chance crisis stage?! Panicking as my daughter starts school and I’ll be missing them and getting older so pregnancy may be harder? I am currently working part time and am career minded so had planned to look for new job.
Although I conceived quickly before, I have no idea if it would work this time and I’d also worry about health of baby etc. Maybe I’m pushing my luck. I feel this pressure trying to decide quickly on something so huge! I’d ideally like to have baby before I’m 40.
Pregnancies were ok, but suffered with bad back and varicose veins (in all areas! 
) so a bit put off by that too! Very quick 20 minute labour with second. 
Anyway any advice I’d be grateful for. Did you have a third? Is it very hard? Does it change your relationships with your other children? Was pregnancy harder? Anyone faced the last chance crisis stage and didn’t go ahead? Thanks