DH and I have been TTC for a while now. We fell PG, which sadly ended in MC at 6 weeks. We're still trying and everything with me is back to normal in terms of cycles, ovulating, periods etc.
My issue is, the pressure of TTC is affecting DH's ability to get/stay erect. This has never been an issue in our marriage and I'm starting to worry. We're both approaching 40 so time is not on our side.
When we first started trying there was no issue, but as the months progress it's getting worse. We have talked about it, of course, and he says he feels under immense pressure to perform which results in us not being able to DTD at all. Last month we were able to do it once, 4 days before I ovulated. This month, same thing. We tried several times and it just wouldn't happen.
I've been using OPKs and I tried not telling him when I was tracking ovulation so we tried to make it more spontaneous, but of course he knows we're trying and the pressure for him is still there. I've also tried to track just by CM (which this month I had EWCM on/off for 5-6 days which is more than normal for me, so I have no idea when I actually ovulated). We've also tried all kinds of things to spice it up a notch, and he's definitely into it... but loses his erection and then we're done.
It's honestly getting me down so much, and I don't want to add more pressure on him, but what can I do? I'm starting to feel like this really isn't going to happen for us and my heart is breaking.
Anyone else experienced this? What can I do?