Looking for positivity after MC

[Abi0795]

Good morning everyone,

I'm very new to this world and wanted to share my story. I unfortunately found out I am suffering a miscarriage yesterday at just over 7 weeks. I have an amazing support system and I'm feeling better as the days go on, I think I knew something wasn't right for a while during my pregnancy.

Me and my partner are keen to get pregnant as soon as we can, but I have no idea how this all works. I haven't started heavy bleeding yet so I know this isn't over, but has anyone got pregnant straight away after a MS? And what advice would you have. I'm so scared there is something wrong with me and I'll be unable to have children in the future. Xx

Sorry to hear you are going through this. I had an early loss at 5.5 weeks a couple of months ago and my cycle appeared to go straight back to normal and then I had what appeared to be a chemical. After this I’ve had a very long cycle and not sure I ovulated so think I am still a bit all over the place after all that’s happened.

So you can start trying again straight away and you could fall pregnant again straight away but it may also take a month or two to get your cycle back on track.

Hope you’re ok xx

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Do you know if your expected to ovulate when they assume your miscarriage started? I've been lightly bleeding for a few days now and not actually had a full miscarriage yet. So I'm not sure when I would be expected to ovulate after. Xxx

I'm so sorry you're going through this it's such a hard time and it takes time, remember to allow yourself that and it's ok to grieve in what ever way is best for you and your partner. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks found out at my 12 week scan, like you had a niggle something wasn't right (my symptoms just stopped at 10 weeks) but it doesn't make it easier.
Talk to your partner regularly, at the time I didn't want to and hated the world but it helps and you can grieve together.
Know that you will try again and it will get easier. I promise. You will have set backs such as scan and the due date, friends announcing pregnancies but stay strong you're time will come. 🌸

Think it completely depends on your own body. I think I ovulated within 3 weeks of bleeding starting which is normal for me as I would normally ovulated around CD20/21. If you ovulate on CD14 it’s possible it will happen that quickly but my plan was always to start again after bleeding stopped -It was about 7 days for me xx

Sorry I regards to trying again after, they recommend to have a good cycle or two after, but then I have had friends conceive without even having a period as you are apparently very fertile. Maybe speak to your GP on the phone for advice and support.

@cammie4 Thank you so much. It's definitely an experience I hope to not go through and unfortunately I haven't passed the baby yet so I'm sure the weeks to come are going to be even more difficult. I believe my body was giving me signs from early on, like you my symptoms weren't strong and my early scan showed me a week behind when I knew my dates were bang on. Let's hope for a special rainbow baby soon 💖

@Kinder19 Ok chick. I'm thinking to maybe get some ovulation strips as I know my body quite well and I can usually tell when I'm ovulating from mucus and pains, so I'm hoping my body will give me some signs.

Xxx

Evening,
My MC started on 7th June and completely finished bleeding yesterday. First pregnancy too and started bleeding at 5 weeks.
I’ve started talking more about my feelings, and found that crying when I needed too helped. I’ve also stopped blaming myself which i did when it started happening.
We initially decided to start trying straight away, but have now decided to wait until towards the end of the year.
I’ve been told you are super fertile as soon as two weeks after.
It’s personal preference so do whatever you feel is right.
I also find writing my feelings on here because the support is amazing x

Hi love,
Just want to send and hugs. I’ve been there too, though some years ago now, I thought it might be helpful for you to know my story. When I had my miscarriages I desperately wanted to know there was hope. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and then another at 9 weeks. Both were devastating BUT I did go on to have 2 healthy pregnancies and now have a boy and a girl. A mc does not mean you cannot go on to have healthy pregnancies. Many people experience them early on but its very hard to talk about so I think we don’t really realise how common it is. I was very fortunate that I had a kindly gp who talked me through my options and possibilities of getting investigations done(which is usually after 3mcs) If you feel emotionally and physically ready there is no reason not to try again. We gave it a few months just to try and get our heads straight and enjoy life as we needed to grieve first. Sending love and you will come through the other side of this. X

Hi @Abi0795 sorry I don’t have any advice but I have also recently had an early MC between 5-6 weeks. I stopped bleeding completely a few days ago and we plan to try again straight away. I had been worried before this happened about something being wrong & not being able to conceive. Although the mc left myself & my husband devastated it’s given us hope that it can happen. It’s not an “if” anymore it’s a “when”.

Sorry you’re going through this ❤️

I miscarried my first at 7 weeks. I bled for about 7 days and passed the tissue quite early on. I started trying again when the bleeding stopped. I used OPK tests but looking back at my chart I used 10 before I got a positive which was unusual for me as my cycle was very regular. I didn't conceive that month. The next month I tried again, things seemed more normal and afterthat cycle I got my BFP. She's 18 months old now. There was only 10 weeks difference between due dates. The midwife I saw at the EPU said we could try again whenever we wanted to but I think it depends on the individual. Have you had a scan?