7 miscarriages.......

[CurlyWurlyTwos]

Anyone else had high number of recurrent miscarriage? After having a healthy full term, non-eventful pregnancy 5 years ago. I have experienced every pregnancy go wrong since. You name it, I’ve had it:

Regular miscarriage
Blighted ovum
Fatal fetal abnormalities (TFMR)
6 week heartbeat, no heartbeat
Regular miscarriage (x2)
Ectopic pregnancy

I want to give up. I tell myself I am DONE.

Yet.....

In a couple of months, I’ll think ‘maybe I’ll get lucky this time’

I have had counselling & psychotherapy to help.

Nothing helps....

Anyone else? I seem to the only one who has had to go through this.....

I had a DD and then have had

Miscarriage 12 weeks
Miscarriage 7 weeks
Miscarriage 7 weeks
Ruptured ectopic - lost left tube
Miscarriage 7 weeks
Miscarriage 7 weeks
IVF 1 - BFN
IVF2 - ruptured ectopic - lost right tube
IVF3 - BFN

Now in 2ww of IVF4 - have zero hope of it working. At times I feel like I'm done and then others I try and see what money we can save to go again. I always thought we'd have our miracle natural baby and then losing my last tube put paid to that x

Hi please don't be disheartened I know I can't speak since I've had one miscarriage but my darling mum had miscarriages over a period of 7 years (she lost count) and then had my sister. She had one after me too. I think miscarriages are really common but are not spoken out about out of fear. Please have hope and keep trying. Stay positive. You'll see a rainbow. Prayers for you x

@ivfgottostaypositive
We started IVF too! I was just about to start transfer drugs when Covid hit and everything was cancelled.

As there was no reopening date (initially pencilled for Oct) we thought ‘why not, the worst is another miscarriage’.

Got BFP the day clinic opened in May, to find out ectopic yesterday at 8 weeks. I couldn’t believe it. Now I cannot have another pregnancy for 12 weeks due to drugs (no surgery allowed due to covid, unless a rupture like yours).

I feel so stupid to even think I had a chance - I kept chasing that ‘miracle baby’ the internet seems awash wish.

I’m sorry that the IVF hasn’t worked so far. I REALLY hope that it works for you this time. I hope that it works for both of us, and that I’m only 12 weeks behind you!

We paid for genetic testing due to my history and from 4 blasts, I only got 1 healthy embryo so I only have 1 transfer 😭.

I am already working out how to pay for second round 🤔 (no idea how)!

I WANT to be FINISHED, but can’t stop myself from trying.

Like you I don’t hold out much hope (hence the midnight call out)! And I’m experiencing a serious lack of sleep.

You AREN’T the only one @ivfgottostaypositive - I am here too, just behind you. Thank you for
reaching out. No one I’ve met seem to understand this process. IVF women seem to think I’m ‘lucky’ already.

I joined a recurrent miscarriage group for support, and they have ALL had healthy babies now! I feel like I’m a good luck charm!

I might be for you too!

How old is your DD? I feel so guilty that she doesn’t have a sibling, especially since LD and she couldn’t go to school and play with her friends.

Have you had a karyotype done? I have a balanced translocation which has caused 4 of my losses and one random unrelated trisomy for (bad) luck.

Apologies if you have and it was normal, your description just sounds so similar to so many ladies on a BT group I am on. Regardless, it is punishing and I'm really sorry so many of us are affected by this

@CurlyWurlyTwos

I was given methotrexate the first time but it didn't work and the sending time I was allowed it as the baby had a heartbeat

My DD is 4 now and constantly asks for a sibling. No one can say we haven't tried everything and I hope she'll know what when she's older. We also did an IVF cycle with PGS - of the 2 blastocysts we got one was fully abnormal and the other mosaic so I guess that sort of explains our problems - I just don't make good quality eggs

Most of the people in my original social media miscarriage or ectopic groups have had success already too or IVF worked first time for them and here I am on my 4th transfer x

@CurlyWurlyTwos. Hi - have you had any immunity tests?

I’ve been through many m/c. My first pregnancy ended at 14 weeks. I had a second pregnancy which resulted in my first gorgeous DC. I then had lots of early losses and subsequently a m/c at 15 weeks. I then had my second gorgeous DC after being treated for immune problems. I had high natural killer cells. It does sound like you need some more tests? IVF would still fail if you have undetected immunity issues. There is a thread that has been running a long time with ladies in similar circumstances. Wishing you lots of luck on your ttc journey xx