Hi everyone
Looking for some advice please. I have an almost 3 year old and I love being a Mum. Last summer I had a MMC at 12 weeks. We decided to try again straight away, but after 2 months my husband put the breaks on.
So for the last year now he has said hes not ready to have another baby... yet. He feels he isnt sorted in his career and isnt ready to be a father again. I feel so trapped as im just waiting for him to change his mind.
Im coming up 36 and I never imagined having a large age gap between my children. It took us a few months to fall pregnant previously and I keep reminding my husband that he has a year (or so) to finalise his career move whilst we TTC and the 9 months of pregnancy. Hes not budging.
Im finding the whole situation so devastating. Im absolutely so grateful for my son, but I always imagined having more children and to fall pregnant for 12 weeks and then have it taken away by the miscarriage and then my husband not wanting to try again is almost too much to handle. I feel really unhappy and dont know what to do or what I can say to him to make him realise that life is too short and there is never a ‘perfect’ time.
(I also had an ectopic pregnancy prior to my son and only have 1 fallopian tube so am worried about conceiving as the months pass.)