Lost motivation

[FebruaryJuly]

Is it normal to lose motivation when you are up to your 5th cycle of TTC?

This will (hopefully) be our second baby if we conceive, so I'm also very reluctant to talk to the doctors about my fertility because I know they only support with first timers TTC .

I have been so on top of it and eager to get going on the other cycles, I now feel like I can't be bothered and I've lost all hope..

Hi, I haven't been in that situation but I'd imagine it's pretty normal for the enthusiasm to wax and wane. Also don't feel shy about talking to your GP. I know several couples who had support ttc their second babies. They were treated no differently than they would have been if it was their first 😊

It is tough but tbh 5 months really isn’t that long. It might feel like it now but it really isn’t. I wouldn’t rule out going to your GP at some point but from experience they are unlikely to help unless you’ve been TTC for around 12 months. They will at the least refer for blood tests and probably a ultrasound to see if there’s any issues. No harm in having a more relaxed cycle if your finding it hard then hopefully have renewed motivation next month! It look me 22 months to conceive with DD and I had many up and downs and lack of motivation during that time! Hope it happens soon for you!

It is normal! Lots of people I've spoken to go through the same. Don't beat yourself up for not being motivated just let it pass. Maybe you need a mental break from being so ontop of it this month and if you're not pregnant you'll likely be a bit more determined next cycle.
I'm cycle 9 TTC our first and cycles 5&6 were the hardest although no months are especially easy.
I wouldn't worry about seeing a doctor until you get to the 12months+ mark as it's normal for it to take that long sometimes even if it didn't with your first. I WOULD go see them though if you don't get pregnant before then (although I'm hopeful you will 😊) as different areas have different guidelines on who they will help and how. It's a postcode lottery. I also think it might be IVF they won't give to people for their second child but there are lots of steps before that part of the process 😊
Don't give up and be kind to yourself when you feel down about it. You're allowed a mental month off.

Thank you everyone!

I think my biggest anxiety is that it took me only 2 months with our first at age 20 and within the last 4-5 years (since then), they have found signs that endometriosis is very likely, so I am worried about that being the issue. I know that I have read "if you are over 35 OR have endometriosis and don't conceive within 6 months then see your GP".
However I was under the impression that they may not be as welcoming to it if you are on your second, especially during the pandemic.

I have my first ovulation tests this month (although we did have sex every 1-2 days during the other months, so don't see how using them will make a difference).

I have also bought preseed for this cycle and men and women preconception vitamins... I really didn't think after spending on all of those, this would me the month I lose my mojo 🤦🏼‍♀️
😂.