Desperate for baby number 3!!!

[Em189]

I have two children 9 and 12 and I desperately want baby number 3 😢 Husband really doesn’t and is extra careful everytime I don’t know what to do...

Hi. You need to sit and have a good chat. Talk about why he isnt keen etc. X

As above you need to have a serious conversation with each other about how important having/not having another child is to each of you. Maybe talk about why either of you have the opinions you have and if there’s anything you can do about those reasons.

Ultimately though if that’s his firm decision you’ll have to work through that together. It probably feels like a very long time since your children were little and maybe he’s looking forward to a bit more freedom in a couple of years once the children become more independent?

Make peace with the two you have and get a dog.
I know you’ll think ‘not helpful’ but think about it. Consider it. A dog really helped me close the circle after our last child. He helped to soften the longing, which really does relax over time.

I would love number 3.. in our case we would need IVF so not a simple decision. However my husband is happy with 2.. his no outweighs my yes as it is a massive thing logistically and financially to have another.

It’s ok to grieve for not having another though 💐

Tbh I do think he is coming round to the idea. I do understand his reasons my children a both older now so really easy. I just feel I had my 2 when I was really quite young and felt maybe I didn’t embrace as much as I could have due to the age. I just don’t want to leave it to much longer and live with the regret of never having another.