Should I delay TTC next year?

[Wannabemummy25]

Bit random, I'd like to start TTC this time next year after our delayed honeymoon. Recently found out that two weddings we were supposed to go to this summer have been rearranged. One will be next Aug and one will be next December with the hen do in November. My husband and I also wanted to visit friends in Canada and New York for two weeks in April 2021, but with having to rearrange our honeymoon to May 2021 we are looking to rearrange the New York/Canada trip to Oct next year.

My question is, should we delay TTC until after the Canada holiday but then I'd run the risk of being early pregnant at the Nov hen do and having to hide it and people would wonder why I'm not drinking. Option 2, delay everything until 2022? Option 3, start TTC as planned this time next year and travel to NY/Canada (from UK) pregnant (has anyone travelled this far whilst pregnant), then potentially be 5 months pregnant at the hen do and then 6 months at the wedding. Anyone been to a hen do and wedding pregnant?
There just always seems to be something happening so do we just go for it next year as planned?

It really depends how old you are and whether a pregnancy is more important than a hen do! I waited till we were married. That was 9yrs ago and we are still TTC, so it doesn't always happen straight away.

Thanks for your reply Elouera! I'm sorry it is taking you so long to conceive.
Having a baby is definitely more important than a hen do and attending friends weddings etc. I think the way you have put it has actually made me realise things like Canada and New York will still be there when kids are a little bit older and probably more magical to explore!

How old are you?

I definitely wouldn't be changing my family planning around a hen do. You can travel until third trimester very easily, only thing I would warn about is you don't know of you will suffer with sickness. Being sick on a long haul flight is not fun

I'm 25 so not exactly biological clock ticking but I know it can take a while. By the time we start TTC we will have been married for 2 years, together 8, we own our house and have good careers. I'd love to have a baby this year but both my husband and I have important milestones in work we need to hit next year

I immigrated back to the UK from Argentina pregnant and with a toddler, without my husband’s help as he was staying longer for work. So I’m not worried about travelling far whilst pregnant! But obviously depends on how your pregnancy goes- you may be sick as a dog and signed off with HG the whole time, or you may be like a recent poster and not realise anything is different til you’re 30+ weeks!

I’ve attended a couple of weddings pregnant; it’s not the most fun thing in the world, but you’re there to support the bride and groom really, so it’s fine. Hen do... I don’t remember attending one pregnant but it’s not a big deal. Just say you’re taking antibiotics and anyone sensible will drop the subject.

Agree with PP, make your own plans and don’t worry about anyone else’s!

Definitely don’t plan TTC around holidays and weddings. I’m 28 and I got married in October and like you I considered delaying TTC as we had an abroad wedding (which actually should be today!) which I didn’t want to be pregnant for initially. But then I changed my mind before my wedding and thought, fuck it, if I’m pregnant we’ll deal with it. Now of course that abroad wedding has been cancelled anyway so waiting would have been even more useless. Plus the fact that I’m not even pregnant yet. You don’t know how long it’s going to take so my advice would be not to wait for trivial things like travel/parties/weddings which you can always work around. If you want a baby, TTC when you feel ready. Arrange your baby around the events not the other way around.
Good luck ❤️

I started ttc 4 years ago after putting it off and we are still trying. Do it when is right for you. We have made a pact not to book anything more that 6 months in advance. I would go to weddings etc in the uk and hen dos dry or make a day time appearance. I'd go to America/Canada too. Covid dependant)

At 25 I'd do the travel you want and ttc in 2022.

Agree with others, at 25 I'd travel and have fun. If you were 30 or 35, I'd say TTC. That's just me though x

At 25 I'd enjoy the travel and a few fun events and then TTC. I say that as someone who put off TTC until I was 32 and then had a few miscarriages. I don't regret waiting though, did some amazing things in those years and it's going to be AGES before we can do anything similar again.

It depends on how bad you want a baby. It took us 2.5 years to conceive. Unexplained infertility. Being pregnant I went to 2 weddings and 2 hen do. Then DD came to two family weddings at 8 and 11 weeks old.
Didn't bother me in the slightest, I could go to my sister in law hen do and I was a bridesmaid as DD had just been born as she had to come 3 weeks early. We did do a mini hen do before that.

I found that no matter when you ttc the world goes on and people plan things such as weddings and hen dos etc some things you can go to and some you can't x

We had just turned 27 when ttc xx

Sorry that should say I couldn't go to my sis in laws hen do

The way I see it is, is there ever, TRULY, a perfect time to have a child? In my opinion no as there will always be something you think "well, what about how it'll affect that". There are people in worse off positions who have babies and completely boss it so in my opinion, don't put TTC on hold if it's what you want cause you could get everything out the way next year and then could something else be used as I "oh but we'll wait until after this now"... we decided to start trying just as we both turned 27. Pretty much 2 years later we havent had a sniff of a positive so I'm glad we started trying when we did even though it wasnt the perfect time (I was miserable in my job then thankfully got a new one a few months after but then of course worried about falling pregnant in a new role) xx

I guess it depends where you are at and what you want really. I wouldn’t have planned having a baby around other people’s weddings and hen do’s personally once we were ready to go for it. Whenever I’ve been on a hen do at least 1 person has been pregnant or breastfeeding and sat with a breast pump, myself included on one and I was breastfeeding on my own hen do (without the baby there). We had all hit 30 though so we had all hit the having babies age. At 25 I was travelling the world having an absolute ball, I had met my husband at uni but it was too soon and we parted ways, got back together when I returned over a year later. I was far from ready for settling down and having children then.

Only you and your husband can decide when you are ready. If you want more fun holidays and to travel though I’d wait, but not based on other people’s weddings.