I feel like I need to talk to someone about my TTC journey, I'm struggling and overthinking a bit and just need to vent and get it all out.
DH and I have been together 7 years. I was diagnosed with PCOS 6 years ago (although I'm doubtful of this diagnosis, as I don't have any cysts and my hormones/bloodwork are fine, apart from being low in iron). I have irregular periods, my last bleed was back in December 2019, but they are often months apart, I usually have maybe 2 or 3 bleeds a year.
DH and I tried to conceive between 2015-2017 but decided to take a break from it a bit as it all became too much, I tried OPK kits but they never showed me as ovulating, and it was hard to predict my fertile days due to my irregular periods. I also had an ultrasound during my PCOS diagnosis which came back fine, the doctors wanted DH to take a semen analysis test but he didn't want to and we argued a bit about it, so that's pretty much where our TTC journey ended.
I'm now ready to start trying again, but I'm unsure where to start.
I'm thinking about going private for fertility tests where both me and hubby can get tested, or do I go to the doctor and ask them to investigate again? (Have recently changed GP's as last one wasn't that good in general).
Hubby and I are both overweight, so we have joined SW and are planning to lose weight together, so far we have only been losing weight for a month but we have stuck to it well. DH has to lose around 2 stone but I have to lose around 7 stone to get into healthy BMI range.
I know our weight is most likely to be giving us fertility issues, but I also wonder whether there are underlying problems, such as me having PCOS that will affect our TTC journey.
I don't think DH really understands about our fertility issues and he's so laidback about everything he'll just say 'oh we'll see what happens'. If I try and talk about getting fertility tests he'll just shut down and won't discuss it with me, so I don't really feel supported.
It's all just getting on top of me already and I feel really crap about myself and not being able to get pregnant. I'm from a large family and all my siblings have children, everyone at work seems to be getting pregnant and having babies and I feel like I just can't escape from everyone's pregnancy announcements.
I don't have any close friends that I can talk to as we've all drifted apart, and I feel like I can't talk to my family as they wouldn't understand what I'm going through.
Sorry for the long message, I just needed to get it off my chest!