Pausing TTC for several cycles - anyone else done this?

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We've decided to pause TTC for the next two cycles for a few reasons, including finances, house renovations, COVID-19 and my best friend's wedding next April (which I don't want to risk missing due to being in labour or recently given birth). I made the mistake of telling close friends and family about this and they are baffled as to why we would start trying then hold off for a couple of months. I have just turned 33 and both me and my partner feel there is no issue in pausing for a couple of months. I am going to find it tricky to get out of TTC mindset but if we did get our BFP this cycle of next, I think I would stress about my friends wedding and the house not being ready.

I don't know anyone else who has actually TTC in my life. My friends and family all had happy accidents so I'm feeling like quite an outsider for trying to be a little planned and sensible!

Hi, yes we did this last year. Started trying in jan with a relaxed approach. Decided if nothing happened by May we'd take a few months break over the summer to go on a few holidays etc. We did this and started trying again in sept and fell pregnant that month. Unfortunately that pregnancy didn't work out but that has meant we then took another break of 3 months until March before we started ttc again to make sure we felt ready. Do what feels right for you, it's no one else's business really!

If you feel you might regret that 'lost time' if things don't happen quickly then carry on but if you'd regret more being pregnant and not being able to attend your friends wedding then wait a month or two. You have to weigh up what you would regret more. I totally get your reasoning for wanting to wait tho. I delayed starting again in August last year because I had a hen do and a baby shower to attend and I wanted to have a drink😳

I stopped trying for a couple of months because it would have collided with an important event (I’m self employed) that was vital for my career. Took another four months after that to conceive. Made sense to me!

Hey, we paused TTC in April and May due to the virus chaos and I also felt I needed to reset after having a chemical in January and 2 failed cycles following. We’ve just started back TTC this month. I completely understand why you feel you need a break and would definitely recommend it if you feel you do.

When we were trying for DC3, when I was 32, we decided to pause for two months because I preferred not to have a July or August baby. I got pregnant the next time of trying and got my September baby.

After over a year of ttc and no luck. I got to the point where I just couldn't do it anymore. So we took a break, planned and went on a big holiday to California. My mental health needed a rest! You do what is right for you!

We didn’t pause but we held off ttc to for a siblings wedding. I was due to be 7 months at the wedding which was fine. I then miscarried just before my 12 week scan and the wedding was postponed to later on this year due to covid.
Turns out I was already pregnant again when they announced the new date and I’m now going to be a 38 week pregnant bridesmaid.

I wouldn’t hold off, I tried and it’s all gone wrong anyway!