Chemical pregnancy first time trying

[Tryingtobe123]

Hi everyone

I recently had a chemical pregnancy, still going through it. It was out first month TTC and we conceived and then this has happened. How soon after can we try? My fiancé wants to try asap as do I, will it be a good idea to? I’ve heard you’re more fertile? Is that true?! Would appreciate any help with this. Never expected to get pregnant first go let alone lose it first go also!

I believe you are more fertile after a chemical pregnancy I had one in 22nd April and I ovulated 2 weeks after the bleeding and I got pregnant again straight away, 6 weeks tomorrow and so far so good!!

Hello I am in same boat, CP first month TTC with baby no2. We want to start again straight away as well, mainly because we are getting married next July (moved from this July due to covid).. from what I have read, if you feel ok in yourself, you can go ahead and try straight away. I am going to use OPKs this month as I am not sure what my cycle will be, it is normally around 32 days but can change due to stress etc. I have read lots re getting preg straight away good luck xx

@MrsBrown91 @xlaurapxx thanks both. I thought from what I’d read that my ‘period’ or whatever it is haha would be a week late but I started bleeding on my period due date. So I’m hoping things will get fairly back to normal. Mentally I feel fine to try again if anything I’m desperate to!! But I don’t want to put any pressure on my body. So I think we’ll just carry on as normal and if it happens then it happens. How did you both feel during/after yours? It’s a strange feeling having something then it being gone in a few days! Xxx

I had a chemical after the first month TTC DC2. We started trying again (we only DTD once the month after as I was not in a good place emotionally) and conceived on cycle 13. I’m now 24+6 weeks pregnant with DD2.

@Tryingtobe123 my period was over a week late, had faint positives the whole week, kind of knew something was wrong. I then had a horrendous time at A&E with an awful doctor so was feeling pretty low, I am nearing the end of the bleeding now and actually feeling excited to try again this month. Luckily I have my beautiful 2 year old to stop me feeling too low. Good luck to us all 💕❤️

My first was also a chemical and 3 months later I successfully conceived my eldest.

@Tryingtobe123 I had a chemical on my first month trying (January) so I feel your pain I hope you’re doing ok.

You can try again straight away next cycle but just to let you know my following 2 months trying I had no success so definitely was not a case of more fertile afterwards for me. I still like to think it’s a good sign that the sperm and egg were able to meet and you were so close so keep positive and keep trying.

Hi, I've in the process of having a chemical pregnancy and I feel almost broken. Has anyone else been through the same thing, I just feel so awful. xx

Hi irwine. Allow yourself to grieve and you will feel better soon I promise. Mine was nearly two weeks ago now and it is still a bit crap but I feel a lot better now.

Thank you. I don't really know what to do with myself. Finding out I'm pregnant, and then losing it, in the space of a week, is a lot to go through. I'm glad you're doing better. xx

Hi @irwine so sorry to hear this. All I can say is it honestly does get better. The day I found out I cried all day. But you will start feeling better. I agree the shock of everything happening so quickly is awful. My chemical pregnancy bleeding started on the 3rd June, just when my period was due. So my OH was adamant to try again, I have just finished my last day of my fertile window, so again in the TWW now. It’s definitely scary but it will get better 🤞 xx

You can try straight away if you feel ready to. I had quite a few chemical pregnancies where my period came a few days after it was due and it was very heavy.
They do say you can be more fertile afterwards. I became pregnant after a failed IVF attempt (the period before I became pregnant was horrendous!!) and I totally believed that 'cleared me out' (sorry tmi!) and gave a fresh canvas for a pregnancy xx
Sending baby dust

@irwine it's a horrible shock and still painful even though it is such an early loss. I had the same thing just over a week ago.

It does get better and for me starting a new cycle and focusing on my upcoming FW has helped.

Thank you so much girls, I really appreciate the support. I know it was so early, but it feels like I'm grieving a proper loss- I had spent the week allowing myself to get excited and when I had such heavy bleeding this morning, it was just such an awful shock. I've spent all morning crying and feeling numb, which sounds crazy. Thank you all for your kind words xx

@irwine yes I think the fact that it’s a horrible heavy ‘period’ just makes it so much worse because it’s like you can’t think about healing until it’s over if that makes sense? For sure how I felt anyway, I couldn’t wait to just stop bleeding so I wasn’t reminded every time I went to the loo!

Definitely have a TLC day, rest and try to find some pleasure in things ☺️ Your hormones may be all over the place too, so just bear that in mind and look after yourself xx

Thank you so much that's really kind: so comforting to know you get where I'm coming from, I can't wait for the bleeding to stop so I can at least try and move on. The cramps are pretty unpleasant too. Thank you so much for your advice and support xx

@irwine so sorry to hear you are going through this. Ive just had an early loss too, after 1 week. I felt awful when it was happening like @Freddie15VES describes. I was just crying and the pain felt more painful because of what was happening. It’s also that you don’t know when it will end and that is hard. But when the physical part was over, I was surprised to find I just moved on. Like you, the pregnant then not pregnant rollercoaster was shocking and I wasn’t really aware it could happen. But you will move on. Definitely TLC time for a bit, it will really help. Sending hugs

@Freddie15VES did you use ovulation tests? I’m struggling to know when I might ovulate as my dates are all out. I had a negative pregnancy test soon after the loss on 3rd June. We have been trying and I now have very achy boobs. Confused whether it is hcg, AF or pregnancy!

Thank you so much. I still feel really tearful but trying to take it slowly and allow myself time to heal. I had the same question actually, I'm not sure if my cycles will be all out of sync now and whether to allow a couple of cycles before my husband and I start trying again? I haven't used ovulation sticks before, I've just been tracking my cycle on health app on iPhone as I didn't want loads of pressure on top of everything else. I was quite naive and thought once you got pregnant that would be it... Thanks girls, you are so lovely and I am so grateful for the support xx

This was news to me too @irwine and I’m trying for my second. We are all blissfully unaware until it happens so you are not alone in that. I think it’s tough that this was your first time trying. But it won’t all be like this. You can try again once you feel physically and mentally ready. Some medical studies suggest you are more fertile in the 6 months after. But don’t let that pressure you either. Certainly there are no dangers as long as you have stopped bleeding (infection risk in that case). You can count your first day of bleeding as your period....though the conception can throw the cycle out two weeks or so. I am using ovulation test for the first time as now the cycle has been disrupted hard to time intercourse. We are trying every 4 days as an insurance and planning more when I get ovulation positive. Though I actually think I may have ovulated before I stated testing - I had the typical ‘egg white’ discharge. It’s a little uncertain this month and I’m finding it more of a drag as not as able to rely on dates, so I have to say it is more confusing than normal. So I think it depends on how feel. I just felt I wanted to move on and try again, but you may feel you want to take a break and that’s also ok. I am a very impatient person anyway 😂

Hi @bouncytree! No I haven’t used anything this month, I’ve kind of banned myself from testing anything in any shape or form haha and my OH has too. Luckily he’s really relaxed and kind of said if it happens then it’ll be at the right time and it just wasn’t meant to be last time! So we’re taking a really relaxed approach this time. And I feel much better for it. My periods have always been like clockwork and so has my ovulation and I know exactly when I’m ovulating just by how I feel, increased sex drive and more wet down there (sorry if TMI) so I just went by that this month. Last day of fertile window was yesterday so here comes the dreaded TWW

Oh best of luck, yes TWW is a killer! Yes good to be relaxed about it, it does happen in its own time. I don’t normally test but with the early loss, I feel like I could ovulate anytime in a 4 week window! I don’t get any noticeable symptoms. So we will just have to keep doing the deed this month! 🤣

How’s everyone doing today? Officially in my TWW now URGH. And I feel rotten today, the past couple of days I have had such bad lower back pain and what feels like a stitch in my sides. Also keep getting a strong lower abdominal pain like near my foof. Basically my whole tummy hurts and it feels so strongly like AF. I didn’t have this pain last time well not this severe so I dunno what it is! But then I guess the egg didn’t implant properly last time! So who knows. Xxx

Hi @Freddie15VES pain sounds strong, hope you are doing ok. It’s hard when you are trying not to overthink it and your body is just at you all the time! It’s so cruel how close to AF pains and symptoms it all is. I didn’t have an implantation pain with my first, but had a definite ‘pond water’ taste when I drank water, which was the give away.Fingers crossed for you!! How many days DPO are you? I still have really strong pain in my boobs. I never get this with AF, but I am worried it could be related to the early loss - another poster has said she got this with AF after hers. But the longer it goes on the more hopeful i get. It’s just so strong. I have no idea how many DPO I am, and afraid to test too early as no way to tell. I’ve ordered some cheap tests so I’m tempted to
Use my last FRER! Argh I wish my body would just shut up and I would forget about it!

@Bouncytree I’m around 2-3 DPO! So way way off my period that’s why I’m confused as to why I’m cramping so much! And god am I moody. I’ve cried 3 time’s today at absolutely nothing haha! Dunno what’s going on!