Plus size ttc

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Hi all, I'm new to all this, but am hoping for some advice.

A bit about me. Im 33 and currently weigh 22 stone (declining slowly).
I suffered a miscarriage 2 years ago and it crushed me (I was 18st)
Hubby and I desperately want a baby.
I am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant this big. I want to wait until I am down to 17stone, but am worried about waiting in case I miss the boat.
I suffer from bad anxiety and regularly have panic attacks. For the last 3 months we haven't been trying as I am petrified of all the things that can go wrong and of the judgemental medical professionals out there.

I am here to see what others experiences have been, to either give me the confidence to just get on with ttc, or to wait it out for possibly another 6 months.

I'm hoping that this forum will just be somewhere I can talk to someone about this, rather than googling into the wee hours and fuelling my anxieties.

TIA

I was almost 19 stone when I fell pregnant with my first. Obviously you become a high risk pregnancy as you are at risk of a bigger baby and more Likely to need assistance during labour amongst diabetes and things in pregnancy but I can’t honestly say nobody ever made me feel uncomfortable. I was under consultant led care with extra growth scans (not a bad thing) she described me as being cuddly 😂 I didn’t have a big baby a health 7lb 6oz, I didn’t have gestational diabetes and I didn’t need assistance during birth so don’t stress. Your weight will probably make it harder to conceive so lots of fruit and veg and even when you fall pregnant eat healthy. I ate so healthily during my pregnancy and only gained 6lb throughout the whole thing. Do try and get your weight down as from experience I was very conscious of mine and the anxiety of being overweight and pregnant ruined my pregnancy. Good luck op!

I want to be really honest with you - if I was in your position I would give myself a year and try and shift some more weight first.

I have two DDs and was 15 and a half stone when I got pregnant both times. BMI around 37. It really took a toll on my body at that weight. My whole body ached.

With my second she had got into a weird position stuck under my rib cage and I needed an emergency c section - the consultant said (as kindly as she could) that it was caused due to my weight. I also had a huge blood loss during surgery which again was caused by my weight.

If I had my time again I would get to a healthy weight before getting pregnant.

I really don't want to scare you but I really wouldn't want anyone to go through what I did when it can be prevented.

Hi!

I was 17st when I found out I was pregnant - heartbreakingly it ended in a loss which had absolutely nothing to do with my weight.

We’re now a year on and still TTC - I’m still 17st (grief from my loss didn’t help any weight loss plans at all so I did gain but it’s making it’s way back down again) and turned 40, I am a bit concerned about my age and weight but I’m not ready to give up yet and although I’m still going to keep TTC I’m also going to keep trying to loose weight too.