AIBU to be angry with DH?

[lydiangel83]

I'm 37 and DH and I have a DD 2.5 who had a number of health issues and has only just resolved most of them. I started getting paranoid I was losing fertility as having night sweats and other symptoms, so we talked about TTC #2 and DH agreed to try. I said it'd probably take ages and he agreed to start TTC.

First cycle seems to have stuck (very lucky I know) and he is now freaking out and saying he can't handle two children and doesn't want it. Says nothing to look forward to about another baby, first 18-24 months of DD life were misery (this is mostly true) and can't handle it. I think I'm about 4 wks currently, and am saddened that he feels like that but equally can see it may be a shock.

AIBU to be angry with him?

You are not being unreasonable. But ultimately what. An he expect you to do about it now. It’s more likely than not he’s just freaking out (especially if you have any money woes). A proper long sit down discussion stating that you need to know (apart from the whole illness thing which is super unlikely to happen again) what are his concerns. Try not doing this chat for another week or so though.

You are not being unreasonable at all. You both discussed something and came to an agreement. Just because it happened sooner than expected is irrelevant. Also with your DD having health problems doesn’t mean your next baby will. I’d expect he’s more shocked than anything and this is his way of dealing with it. Maybe give it a few days and have a chat about it, you’ve made the decision now and there’s no going back! Hope all goes well and wishing you a healthy pregnancy x