Am I ready?

[oliviamuir]

Hi all...

I have googled and googled but thought I could ask other people in the same situation!

Me and my partner have been talking about trying for a baby for a while now. I’m 27, he is 28. We both live together, stable jobs, happy relationship etc. Originally I was the one who wanted it so so badly and he was unsure. Now he’s had time to think, he is ready to start trying.

The tables have turned, I am so worried. I LOVE children and I am very maternal but I am so scared of becoming someone’s Mother. The thought excites but also scares the living daylights out of me... I feel about 18 still in my head and I do love our life right now where we don’t worry about much but ourselves and the cat haha!

I also sometimes have anxiety over normal life issues and for some reason I am petrified of getting postnatal depression?! I am a massive worrier as you may of guessed!

I don’t know if there ever will be a right time but I wanted to know if anyone else had the same worries?

Thanks 😊

It really is daunting when you realise you are actually going to try, even scarier when you get that positive, I rang my mum in tears telling her I wasn't ready. But if you want children and to have a family, it'll be ok, everything works out in the end.

Also, it could take a while for you to get pregnant (3 years of not trying to prevent followed by 6 months actively trying here) just be prepared that you could go the other way and fall on the first go.

I was the exact same and now that I have my little girl, I wouldn’t change a thing!!!!! It’s so scary but then they get here and you are so happy!!! If you are unlucky and do suffer with depression, there is lots of help there for you, but I wouldn’t worry about that now!!!

I don't think anyone is ever ready and I'm sure there definitely isn't a right time to have a baby. I still don't feel ready and my DD is 3 and we're about to start trying again hopefully.

If you're worried about depression talk to your doctors/midwife about it once you're pregnant and get your partner to read up on it. When we had out daughter my husband knew more about PND than I did because he felt that it was going to be him that needed to recognise the signs in me, more than I would myself.