My and my husband have been together for 6 years, married for one. We have a 2.5yr old who was not planned but is everything we didnt know we wanted.
Since my lb was 1yr old I have been on about having another child and when my boy turned 2 he finally agreed.
In January 2020 we started trying and so far have been unsucessful but that is purely down to not doing the deed at the right time.
Move forward to yesterday where my friend told me she was expexting a baby and me and my dh were chatting and I said gosh this makes me realise how much i cannot wait to have another. Then came the massive bombshell...........I have changed my mind!
WHAT THE ACTUAL.....! ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME! I am absolutely devestated, crying uncontrollably and cannot face speaking to him.
He always knew I wanted a second and to lead me on and then change his mind feels like a complete betrayal.
He says he doesn't want to do all the baby bit again and the financial strain (he means childcare fees). We are not tight for money I have a good job and between the 2 of us we earn in excess of £85K!
I don't know what to do or say. I feel sick to my stomach and so emotional. I know I cannot make him do something he doesn't want but I don't know how we keep going. He doesn't care how much this pains me. I don't know if our marriage can survive this, I don't know if I not resent him. I feel so low like i am grieving a loss to something i never had.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What have you done? How did it end?
Vicky